Trust of the Highest Order - Loving Another Human Being

Many of us have been lulled into complacency by a relationship that has lasted many years, and then are "blown away" by the very person we trusted leaving us without explanation. It is mind blowing to say the least and devastating. The inability of individuals to articulate that they are unhappy within their relationship leads to infidelity, and destruction. Relationships that end without "closure" leave both parties without perspective and an ability to move forward. Many of us wake up to find ourselves in an unhappy state of being, and because we cannot attribute that unhappiness to something inside of ourselves, we then blame our partner/spouse for that unhappiness. We want change, even if it is destructive, and we assume that change is always the answer. If you find yourself feeling unhappy with your life, consider that this feeling may be temporary, slow down and talk through with yourself and your partner about your unhappiness. Money comes and money go, children grow and leave home, aging happens, and health declines despite our best efforts at fitness. Happiness is a choice, and commitment to work on a relationship needs to be a daily effort. Relationships are like plants, they need to be fed, and have sunlight (fun) in order to grow. Sometimes, holding the hand of the person you care about will need to be enough. Romance comes in the form of a knowing look, and a gentle touch. We are in a society that has such high expectations for everyone and everything. Perfect doesn't exist and certainly not with people in relationships. For today, choose "good enough."  Namaste, Karen

When life gives us lemons.....

How many of us would like to wake up daily to a stress free life?  A world where our jobs were always fulfilling, our colleagues were cooperative, our ex-spouses, ex-lovers, ex-whatevers, were out of our lives, and peace reigned eternal from dawn to dusk.  Plenty of money to pay bills, children that were perfect, houses that were organized, etc...   If there is a heaven, that would be it.  Is that realistic? Probably not.  Sometimes, doing your best needs to be good enough.  Let it be. Live in the present. Not in the past where the pain lies, and we can change nothing. Hope for the future, and do your part to make it the best it can be.
 My grandmother used to hum a tune entitled "Que Sera, Sera" and here are a portion of the lyrics:

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

I find it ironic that now that I am a full time psychic my daughter, Erin, hums this tune and plays it on her grandmother's piano.....perhaps, good advice from my grandmother from beyond the grave!  Just for today....hum to yourself..."Que Sera, Sera.."  Karen

You can lead the horse to water.....

Remember the saying, "you can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink?"  It is like that when discussing relationships with people when it comes to psychic work.  People believe what they want to believe about love interests, and they only hear what they want to hear.  When our heart is involved, our mind bends and skews information to make it what we want it to be.  A person we love forgets our birthday, and we make excuses saying that he/she is too busy, or that we shouldn't be so materialistic, instead of seeing the slight for what it was......an oversight of tremendous proportions emotionally.  A lover starts texting a co-worker, and we find the text and believe that it is "all in great fun" and doesn't signal cheating because it isn't physical in nature.  Emotional cheating is as prevalent as physical cheating.  Trust your head and not your heart.  Excuses for bad behavior run rampant.  Do not accept bad behavior from someone who supposedly professes their love for you.  Have a talk with them, ask them to change their behavior, and if they do not.  End it.  Stop the excuses.  I say this with compassion and conviction. Namaste.  Karen