tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17130181518291101712024-03-06T12:03:02.381-08:00Karen Hollis ~ Psychic/MediumReadings By Karen blog content is provided by Karen Hollis, Psychic/Medium and Owner of "Readings By Karen" L.L.C. The blog serves as a platform for Karen to discuss all things having to do with Mediumship, Divination, Psychic work, and the Paranormal. Karen also addresses common questions and issues that she has witnessed through her client's lives during her 37-year career.Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-11657436511845663892018-02-04T19:33:00.000-08:002018-02-04T19:33:25.478-08:00What is Heaven Like According To The DeadMany of you know that I strive every day to be as accurate and evidential as possible when bringing through messages from the dead. The dead will use symbols like a stethoscope if they were in medicine, or a hammer if they were a carpenter, to let me know what they did for a living. They will show me these symbols clairvoyantly in my mind. They will tap my wrist if there was a bracelet passed down to a family member or friend, or touch my ears to let me know that earrings were left to a loved one. The one thing that they will rarely answer me on is questions about what "heaven" is like. Recently though, I did get some insight from two clever Spirits.<br />
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One was the brother of one of my clients who was a Budweiser fan. I was doing a mediumship reading by phone when I saw my client's brother holding up a can of Budweiser in my mind, clairvoyantly. I told her that he was doing this, and she laughed hard. "Oh yes, my brother loved his Bud," she said. Then, I heard him sing to me, Karen, "In heaven there is no beer, NOT!"Which means that there really is BEER in heaven?!? What a CLEVER brother she had! He gave me a valuable clue and insight into his world. Whatever you think of alcohol on earth, it may be in the afterlife!<br />
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The second Spirit came through quite unexpectedly when I was doing a mediumship session at an event. The Italian mother in the family had just lost her mother and desperately wanted to hear from her. That lady came through and made mention who she had met "on the other side" to greet her. It was her sister, Mary. The woman's husband, named Tony, was sitting beside his wife for moral support while I was giving his wife the messages from her mom. All of a sudden the energy changed and I felt that I had a man wearing a "butcher's apron" splattered with blood standing next to me. I felt him, and I saw what he was wearing in my mind. The man told me that he was related to Tony, in fact he was named Tony. I let the living Tony know about "butcher, Tony" standing next to me in Spirit. "Get rid of him" said the living Tony! OMG I said, why? Because he wasn't a good person in life, exclaimed the living Tony. I turned to the Spirit, Tony, and asked him to please leave. He replied, "tell him his namesake is not in hell!" Then he laughed and left straight away. I relayed the message to the living, Tony and asked him who that was as it felt like it might have been family to him. The living, Tony, replied that his name was "Tony the Butcher" and he was a hitman for the MAFIA back in the day! Wow, just wow....<br />
What makes this so interesting is that Tony "the butcher" had let me know that he indeed was NOT in a bad place we would call hell. So, does that mean that there really is NO HELL? Or, is it just that this man who had done less than honorable things wasn't in a place we would consider to be hell.<br />
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I have seen the dead holding their beloved pets who are licking their faces while they relay to me that they have "scruffy" the dog with them safe and sound on the other side. Clearly, it is a relief to know that love does not die whether human or animal. I have watched cats walk by, clairvoyantly, and shake their tails in a greeting of "hello!" Take heart folks....our wonderful pets will greet us when we cross over. Most of them are cared for by relatives and friends until we too "walk over the rainbow bridge."<br />
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I will continue to update all of you from time to time with new insights as to what heaven is like as clues come through. Until then, keep the faith! ~ In the Light~ KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com18tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-36043765673836954112017-01-15T06:10:00.000-08:002017-01-15T06:10:05.152-08:00Getting and Being Real in an Upside Down World "Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Sad as it is, I must leave you."<br />
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So much emotional pain could be averted if people truly thought through what they wanted before starting a relationship with the<i> <b>wrong</b></i> person. Many clients come in asking why they have spent literally years trying to make lukewarm relationships work. Equally confusing is the phenomena of people pulling "disappearing acts" or "<b><i>ghosting"</i></b> after getting intimately involved with others. People tell me that they want <b style="font-style: italic;">closure </b>and not open-ended unrest after intimate relations with essentially strangers in their lives. So, let's talk about this.<br />
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In the beginning.....<br />
We, as human beings, are the sum total of what we saw as behavior growing up from our parents, and society. Period. Times have indeed changed, and we can argue that we need daycare and things are most certainly expensive but what a child sees at a young age they will emulate. If they see arguing, alcoholism, abuse, both physical or emotional, then that will be what they consider love. Lack of commitment, absentee parents, and a society that skews right from wrong leads to misery. The first place to begin is with what you observed as a child. How did your family show love? Were you given "things" or were you encouraged to perform given your God given strengths. Was love withheld unless you did what was expected of you? How was money treated? Was is a commodity to be used to create joy and security, or was it made into a God to be only saved and counted, and used to control others? All of this matters when picking out a partner in life. Why? How we order our world depends on how it was explained to us as children through the actions of the adults who were most instructive in our lives as we were growing up. It pains me to see a child screaming "mommy" in a store as the mother is texting on her cell phone, or mindlessly talking to some other adult not understanding that the message she is sending to her child is "you don't matter." How you feel doesn't matter, what you think doesn't matter, and I simply don't care as your mother is what that child is hearing. We then wonder why this same child will grow up to be abusive towards a partner who is "crying to be heard." Childhood matters, parenting matters, right and wrong matters.<br />
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Enter adulthood.....<br />
Hooking up, sexting, friends with benefits. Sounds fabulous right. No responsibility and all the thrills. Until reality strikes and we have <b><i>feelings </i></b>toward the other person. Why can't I be like other people my clients exclaim? What people, I reply, aliens? What kind of people think that sex without emotion is truly possible? When we don't<i><b> get real </b></i>with ourselves about what will constitute good choices in our lives we make mistakes. Sometimes big ones. I often like to quote The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. She talks about what constitutes becoming REAL. Read Below.<br />
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<span style="color: blue;"> <span style="background-color: white; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;">"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"</span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif; font-size: 14px;"> </span></span><br />
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<span style="background-color: white;">The phrase "not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become Real" is key. Do you want a real love? or a fake love? Do you want to be Played with? A love that hides behind words that have no real meaning, or one that endures a lifetime? Get REAL folks! It is the ONLY way to happiness. Up is not down, right is not wrong, money does not buy happiness, and actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. If your childhood left much to be healed, and you are struggling to know what love really is swear off these Fake relationships. Put requirements on what you expect and deserve in a relationship. Walk away when you are not getting what you need. Love does not have to be hard, and it does not have to hurt. If that is what you saw as a child, then the internal narrative in flawed and it is time to "hit the reset" button and GET REAL. No one will love you the way that YOU LOVE YOU. Speak your truth, stand up for what is right and just no matter the consequence. Live in the Light. No Answer is an answer. No change is an answer. No closure means walk away and is closure in and of itself. Do unto others as they would do unto you is <b><i>a nice fairy tale </i></b>and a great "playbook" if everyone were playing by the same rules! See people for who they are, not who you want them to be. I promise you, if you GET REAL, it will bring you joy. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: white;">~In the Light~ Karen</span><br />
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Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-19924123800736891252016-08-27T17:05:00.000-07:002016-08-27T17:05:19.217-07:00Bibbidy Bobbidy Boo ~ Finding Your Forever Love<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-FKoDU8G9iucozPt1iTpregDH2fnktAtGZTgWyDv_0it3EjB_isYWvlFQKtFekcWyL-C4McsNKsqUTjW8R6tAFiz3pu9KFca5ACLOhswqCE6xtExZuFN-sriJfW6F5RXfe_Ul_hw1kynI/s1600/Screen+Shot+2016-08-27+at+7.16.25+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="136" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi-FKoDU8G9iucozPt1iTpregDH2fnktAtGZTgWyDv_0it3EjB_isYWvlFQKtFekcWyL-C4McsNKsqUTjW8R6tAFiz3pu9KFca5ACLOhswqCE6xtExZuFN-sriJfW6F5RXfe_Ul_hw1kynI/s200/Screen+Shot+2016-08-27+at+7.16.25+PM.png" width="200" /></a>Photo by Quotesgram.com<br />
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Mark Hollis and I met under the clock at Grand Central Station in NYC on September 5, 2003. Prior to that I joined all the dating sites on the web and was actively looking for my "forever love." I have to say that my Big Angel that year was my husband, Mark. Sent to me by Spirit, and a wonderful match for my life's work and my daughter.<br />
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The previous year had been a blur. My custom home in CO had almost burned to the ground in a CO wildfire, (a forest ranger had burned a "love letter" near my home in Conifer CO in 2001), and my house was saved by one slurry plane.<br />
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I was laid off while I had been pregnant with my daughter, Erin, during a Joint Operating agreement between two newspapers. My husband, Kevin, had left me for another woman while I was pregnant after putting him through software engineering school for many years. No explanation from him after 14 years of marriage. Life was definitely not o.k. How many stressors is that? Pregnant? unemployed suddenly? Needing to move cross country? Divorced? New parent? Wow!<br />
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Here I was single again after all these years....Yippee. (Not)<br />
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It was time to make lemonade out of nothing! I was even out of lemons. LOL<br />
So I did. I squared my jaw and said: "that's it, I'm tired of giving and not getting. Tired of being alone. SO, I employed a little "love magic" by asking for exactly what I wanted in a man. Tall (o.k. so 6'5" is a little overdoing it), smart, (Mark's IQ is off the charts), Spiritual, (Mark was an "Emissary of Divine Light" ) www.http://emissaries.org and compassionate, (my husband is one of the nicest people you will meet).<br />
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The "magic" was my determination to not settle for no one, or the wrong person, or to "give up!"<br />
"ASK and you shall receive, SEEK and you will Find, KNOCK and it will be opened unto you" Matthew 7:7<br />
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If you want to go into medicine, you put the effort into medical school, right? If you want to be a teacher, you get your Master's degree, right? SO, if you truly don't want to be single why are you sitting on your couch waiting for the right person to come along? What are the chances of that happening, right? If you fail once, try again.<br />
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PUT IN THE EFFORT! If you truly want something, go out and get it.<br />
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It seems that we believe this principal was long as it has nothing to do with LOVE and SELF-Worth!<br />
You are worth it, you deserve to be loved, you can do this. I know you can. I did it.<br />
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"Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you, if your young at heart." lyrics ~ Jimmy Durante<br />
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Keep the Faith ~In the Light~ Karen<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com16tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-83348172180677046792016-08-12T19:38:00.005-07:002016-08-12T19:38:56.139-07:00The Vessel that Cradles The Grief of Humanity<br />
Clients often ask me how I strengthened my "gift" and for advice?<br />
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Most recently, I sat for about a half hour and really thought through my answer in a very mindful way. There is no easy answer to that question because everyone learns differently. I first sought out a reputable person who I thought knew what they were talking about and asked them. Luckily for me that was a kind, and wonderful mentor and friend named Virginia Randolph. Learning to be more intuitive took years of study from everyone that I could find who would teach me about what they knew and how they did what they did. I took what I thought was the best advice and what rang true to me and implemented it into my own way of reading. I also read every book I could get my hands on. I was led by Spirit to the right places and people and you will be too.<br />
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Anyone who knows me, knows that I bristle when people call intuition a "gift." I agree it is in some way special and it is a privilege given by God/Source/Spirit, but I would not call it a "gift." It comes with a <b><i>heavy responsibility</i></b> to have humility and be the <b><i>vessel that cradles the grief of humanity.</i></b> You are witnessing here on earth "man's inhumanity to man" and the physical, emotional, and sexual struggles of the human race. If you choose the path of the psychic, you will be called "crazy." Many will scoff at you and suggest that you "think you are something," whatever that means. Some will call you a fraud. Others will cherish what you have to offer, which at its best is a <b><i>glimpse of the spark of the Divine.</i></b><br />
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If you listen to your heart and help everyone in your own way, without judgment, you will have done your best. Make sure you are compensated so that people respect your time and efforts, and above all be true to yourself! Beware of the folks I call the "newly spiritual" who tell you that there is only one way to do things, and that is their way. Trust in yourself. Stay positive. Rest when you get weary of what you witness here in the realm known as earth. Know yourself well. Meditate. Pray. These are all my thoughts.<br />
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If no one else believes in you, know that I believe in you and Spirit believes in you.<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-90547472684658270352016-06-19T20:15:00.000-07:002016-06-19T20:15:48.006-07:00Messages From Loved Ones & Grieving and TimingIt is normal when a beloved family member or friend passes away to go into a state of shock when receiving the news of their death and immediately want to know if they are o.k. The grief can be excruciating if the person was connected to us by love. For many, what we thought we knew about life after death is filtered through the lens of our religious upbringing or the lack of that religious bent in our lives. Some people believe in an afterlife, and others feel that when we die it is over. Whatever you believe becomes your reality when faced with death. But what if love was the "bridge" between the two realities? What if the energy that is our Spirit simply crosses into a new reality that is similar, yet different than what we experience here in the physical? How soon should we seek contact with the dead? Sometimes too soon will leave us in deeper despair because the message we desperately want to hear either does not come because the Spirit world feels that it would plunge us deeper into despair, or the dead also need time to heal and process from their arduous transition.<br />
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It is said that there are many stages to the grieving process and as a Psychic/Medium I have often counseled people in a spiritual way that it is not that the dead don't want to connect with the living, it is that the living are in shock about the dead and are not ready to process the messages that are given.<br />
We want to pick up the phone and call our loved one "direct" and have a chat with them as if they are still alive. Unfortunately, communication with the dead is based on symbolism and energy thought transference between the deceased and the Medium. A Medium sits between two worlds energetically. They are the "bridge," if you will, between two realities. One made up of the physical and the other made up of pure energy. Television mediumship has been edited to only show the "amazing" messages that come through from the Medium to the audience. Good mediumship is like mixing the perfect cocktail. It is one part love, one part talent, one part good interpretation, and a damn good energetic connection. The most important part of receiving a good message is to be open to all of the information that comes, and to all the communicators that come.<br />
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Many times, the first Spirit to come through is one that is energetically a good match with the Medium and may not be the person that you wanted to hear from like your mom, or your dad. By this I mean that the Spirit communicator who comes can link and blend well with the Medium energetically. Knowing that you have a dead person wanting to communicate with you is akin to feeling someone walk into your personal space but you just cannot see them. A Spirit can only use the "vocabulary" that the Medium recognizes to communicate. I am clairaudient, which means that I can hear Spirit the same way I can hear a live person. I am clairvoyant, and that means that Spirit can show me photos in my mind and other objects to relay a message. I can also feel Spirit, so they can overlay their physical ailments to let me know how they died or what they died or suffered from. I always say it is through the GRACE of God that I am able to get messages from the dead to the living. Mediumship takes years of dedication to develop and requires a blind faith on the part of the Medium that LOVE conquers the divide that death creates.<br />
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If you are grieving, you are not "tracking" and are often in a "fog" due to the shock and emotional process of letting go. You may to hear that your loved one is "happy" now that they have "crossed over," but the truth is that I can only tell you what I am being told ethically. Sometimes that message is "I am o.k. and you too will be o.k." This is especially true with suicides. So, try to keep an OPEN MIND when hearing messages and don't demand to hear only what you want to hear. We tend to have a pre-planned conversation that we would love to hear from the Medium in our heads and we miss the wonderful messages of love and memories in the process.<br />
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Love is the bridge that unites and connects us in life, and so it is in death. Honor what messages you get from your loved ones in Spirit and try to let go of the Medium didn't acknowledge your mom's photo in the left front pocket of your jeans! Mediumship is not a "circus act"or a performance that is rated like the Olympics, it is a sacred communication sanctioned by Source/God/The Divine and needs to be treated with that same respect. If you seek Mediumship, do so with love as your only expectation. ~ In the Light~ Karen<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com13tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-44692901351889375852016-03-11T19:41:00.002-08:002016-03-11T19:41:45.333-08:00Finding Love ~ Soul Mates, Twin Flames, & other Fairy Tales!In this crazy world where divorce and separation happen all to often to those we love, what does it take to find the love of your life? Would it surprise you to know that the words patience, perseverance, and courage apply when looking for love in 2016?<br />
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Social Media has given the illusion that we are globally connected because we can comment Facebook with regard to a photo posted by a friend, Tweet about something interesting, and Tinder whether we are looking for love. When we use the words "Soul Mate," and/or "Twin Flames" we are creating an expectation of perfection in another human being that I would argue does not exist. Our grandparents, and their grandparents, did not have this same high expectation of love in the past. People met, fell in love, settled into a routine, and sometimes got complacent in their marriages/relationships but this did not mean that they did not love their partners.<br />
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Today, we expect our prospective partner to know what we need physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually before we say what we need. Is that realistic? To expect that the "spinning around in love kind of love" will last forever? I would suggest that these phrases do more harm than good in today's world. Men and women are switching roles, shouldering more debt, working more hours, spending less time making memories with their children, and then they are expected to be their partner's "Soul Mate" every day of their lives. If not, we divorce too quickly. Cheat too readily. Leave children torn between two parents, and wonder why at mid-life there are so many suicides, and addictions in the world.<br />
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The way to love is to show patience and kindness to your partner/spouse. The words please and thank you need to be a part of our lexicon and daily home life. Children know who tuck them in at night and who actually cares whether their lunch is made, or provided. FaceTime is not a substitute for parenting in person. The words you look handsome today or pretty are always nice to hear. Balance in all things.<br />
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Finding love may mean taking up a new hobby, getting off your couch, learning a new skill set, going to an event, signing up for a seminar, having coffee with friends who know other friends, or just plain making room in our lives. There is no magical way to meet the love of your life. If you are older, and hopefully wiser, you will need to decide out of your list of "must haves" what is most important in a significant other and maybe even need to compromise if you want that companion in your life. The most important thing that you can do when looking for a life partner is to know what you will and will not tolerate. If someone is inconsistent in their pursuit of you, they don't value moving the relationship forward enough. Let them go. If they are too broken to truly commit or love again. Let them go. If they value money too much and say they will never commit or marry again, believe them and move on. I believe that there are people that are still honest and have integrity in the world, but they are not going to "parachute" in onto your couch on a Saturday night unexpectedly. If you are committed to finding the right person for you, then value yourself enough to commit to putting some effort into the search. You have a job opening entitled "love of your life" ~ people have a resume, "themselves" and either they qualify or they don't. Take back your power, and live your life courageously. Make it happen for you by committing yourself to being open to new friends.<br />
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Remember, "dreams do come true and it can happen to you if you are young at heart!"<br />
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Sometimes, Cinderella does really find her Prince or Princess but be prepared to kiss ALOT of Frogs!<br />
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~ In the Light ~ KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com34tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-34466861205351259832015-06-28T20:58:00.000-07:002015-06-28T20:58:30.924-07:00Remote Viewing ~ Sweat & Matt ~ PitfallsRemote Viewing is a psychic skill that is very specialized indeed. Not all psychics and mediums have the skill level or talent for remote viewing and it is associated with the talent of clairvoyance a.k.a. clear sight. According to Wikipedia, <b><i>remote viewing</i></b> is the practice of seeking impressions about a distant or unseen target using subjective means, in particular extrasensory perception (ESP) or "sensing with mind." I was trained in my twenties by a phenomenal psychic named Virginia Randolph on how to do remote viewing. She and I worked on many cases in the eighties and nineties having to do with missing objects and more importantly, missing persons. Remote viewing can be a powerful tool in helping to locate and solve cold cases as well. Virginia taught me that time is not linear as we know it. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, and not the other way around. We can go back in time as easily as we can move forward in time. All we need to do is say "take me there, Spirit!" "Show me the detail," "Let me see it through their eyes." However, you must also recognize that it is possible to get turned around directionally in a remote view session. For me, it is like walking through a mirror (the proverbial "looking glass") and everything is turned around. North can appear to be South, and East can appear to be West. I can see the smallest detail if I look closely enough in my remote view, and yet be off because of distance or direction. I am working hard at correcting this issue within my own skill level. It will take time and dogged determination to succeed over many years no doubt.<br />
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I like to combine tarot cards with remote viewing to double check my understanding of what I have seen. Recently, I kept seeing a bright light overhead when I asked to literally see through the eyes of David Sweat and then respectively, Richard Matt. Two convicted murderers on the run in upstate NY. I kept hearing (clairaudience a.k.a. clear hearing) that they were "looking for the light." Well, that could mean in retrospect that they were watching above them for helicopters with night vision so that they would not get caught. Police thought that during the case there was a sighting of the two by train tracks. Were they looking out for the light on the front of the train so as not to get run over? I brought out the tarot cards to double check myself and got The Hermit card. The Hermit stands holding a lone lantern up in front of him. Yes, indeed they were looking for the LIGHT. But, which light? The helicopter? The Train? The Light of God? The North Star?<br />
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So, back to my remote view. I said, "Spirit, show me again through their eyes." Once again, I see (clairvoyantly) a long road with water to the left of me and a field to my right. I am looking for one single light! I am not sure which of the prisoners eyes I was using to see with, but I could clearly feel that if I could just see that light I would better be able to make good time on foot to Canada. I pulled a card from the tarot deck in the Tarot For Life Class on this subject and I then got the King Of Cups.<br />
Single Light, and the King of Cups is SURROUNDED BY WATER. So, I deduce that the cards are pointing towards the light being a lighthouse! Makes logical sense that upstate NY is by water. Canada is the destination based on an earlier remote view indicating an Ottawa postage stamp on a letter in one of the prisoner's cells. Their are waterways that lead to Canada so the light must mean they are looking for a lighthouse! WRONG Drat! Drat! & Double Drat! Cards were indicating that Richard Matt had found liquor in one of the cabins and was DRINKING prior to him being caught and shot to death. King of Cups can also mean "THE DRINKER." These were two SEPARATE pieces of information in the remote view from Spirit. First piece of information: They were following train tracks that lead straight to Canada! The Hermit's Light was the Light on the FRONT OF THE TRAIN. Second Piece of information: King of Cups meant that alcohol was impairing Richard Matt's judgement on what direction to go as he was DRINKING to reduce his anxiety.<br />
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I kept seeing and sensing a wood exterior as a place of shelter. Came across in the remote view as a "tee pee style lean too." Felt wood all around me. Turns out that the prisoners had broken into a hunting cabin with steep roof lines to keep the snow off it. Remote viewing is difficult in that it is hard to distinguish between wood, metal, and especially plastic. Direction of TICONDEROGA the Fort came in that it is the same longitude and latitude as where both prisoners were eventually caught and shot. The Ticonderoga area was too far North from the Franklin county line as it turns out. The Fort that I thought I saw in the remote view was Fort Covington and NOT Fort Ticonderoga. Directionally challenged as a part of the viewing.<br />
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So, I wanted to share with all of you how a remote viewing can appear to be one way but be askew enough that if you let your analytical mind run all the information together you will be "dead wrong," no pun intended. It is best to go back and ask Spirit AGAIN to "take you there in your mind's eye." View it until you KNOW IT deep in your soul that you are right about what you are perceiving.<br />
So thankful that the nightmare has ended for the residents of upstate NY!<br />
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~In the Light~ Karen<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com40tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-83972811295842074122014-09-02T15:50:00.001-07:002014-09-02T15:54:24.460-07:00What Does ~ "In The Light" Really Mean?<br />
Many of you know that I recently lost a very dear friend and mentor of mine, Mrs. Randolph. For over thirty plus years she was my sounding board for how to handle tough situations, and was my Spiritual rock when I wondered if I could handle the daily work of developing mediumship.<br />
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When I had to make a decision between corporate job and doing private readings, she made my choice clear by stating: "Are you going to walk your talk or not? Straight talker Mrs. Randolph. No baloney as they say. One piece of advice that she gave me stuck to me like glue. Mind your own business. Speak well of others. Don't join permanent groups or circles as they are just ways to get hurt emotionally, and BEWARE of the "NEWLY SPIRITUAL."<br />
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Now some of you might ask, what does that mean? The NEWLY SPIRITUAL folks are the ones that say things that are "dripping with sarcasm" and then say "In Love and Light….so and so" These are the folks that go out of their way to let you know that they are well NEWLY SPIRITUAL! It is a little like being a Southerner and gossiping about someone and then throwing in the phrase "BLESS THEIR HEART." I say be what you are…..if you are going to go out of your way to be nasty to someone why hide behind words that would indicate you are anything but Spiritual.<br />
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James Van Praagh once taught me that "What Other People Think Of Me Is None Of My Business." Wise words from a wise man! Simon James, who is one of the most wonderful teachers of mediumship that I have ever had the privilege of working with, stood in front of students and said if you have an Ego "check it at the door" because if you do not, I will check it for you!<br />
He also taught me: Karen, "YOU work for the dead people, not the live people. Remember that!"<br />
Yes, James, I certainly will!<br />
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Mrs. Randolph told me that in my lifetime I would be called all manner of names out of ignorance. She was right. I have been called names that I could never have imagined. I don't care. I know who I work for. God, Source, Spirit. I know what "In the Light" really means. I mind my business. I speak well of others or I say nothing at all.<br />
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If you have been attacked, persecuted, alienated, accused, berated, or demeaned just remember you are not alone. Spirit knows who is "In the Light" and who is not. "Spirit knows the Truth." Walking with "loving intention" means just that. You demonstrate LOVE through your actions and your words.<br />
I guess I have gotten pretty good at recognizing who the Newly Spiritual are…. HAVE YOU?<br />
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Truly, ~ In the Light~ Karen<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-50770825855294978662014-08-29T06:18:00.000-07:002014-08-29T06:18:00.831-07:00Time ~ How Precious It Is…...In the blink of an eye, we are twenty, thirty, forty, and then fifty, and some of us sixty and beyond years old! Time flies whether we use it wisely or we squander it in a corporate cubicle trying to pay our bills and be responsible adults. If that sounds cynical I suppose it is because I hear the dreams of folks everyday who sit at my reading table and say things like; I always wanted to learn to surf board, or wind sail, or fly an airplane, play the piano, hang glide, etc…<br />
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What stops us is FEAR. Fear that we will not be seen by others as successful. Judged by society as "lesser than" normal, whatever that means! As a whole we are afraid to really live our lives. It is too dangerous, too risky, too far from our families, too (insert fear here.) This phenomena of no risk taking takes on historic proportions in CT known as the "land of steady habits." Most people emigrated to New England and huddled together and never left. By talking to as many folks as I do, you would think that there was invisible fencing around New England and that if you went past New York City to the West of us you would get zapped. Grown adults tell me that "oh no, I could never leave here because my family would never speak with me again if I did." This is no laughing matter. These people are tortured by wanting to LIVE their lives and not the lives that their parents and siblings want them to live and they feel so obligated that they are stuck and miserable.<br />
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The karmic life pattern/lesson appears to be that LOVE is not CONTROL and the time is PRECIOUS here on earth. If you feel the need to live close to your family then do so, but if a time comes when you are not getting back the love and support that you are giving, and you are miserable it is time to MOVE. Moving can take the form of around the corner, block, out of state, or the country. The key is that you cannot run away from yourself. If the problem of boundaries, and keeping healthy emotional boundaries in your life with people is a problem then wherever you go you will have the same problem.<br />
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All decisions are made out of FEAR or LOVE. Do not be so afraid to die that you forget to LIVE. Take that dance class, go on that date, sell that house and move, go back to school, take up the piano, tap dance, learn how to sail, write the book, go to Europe on the airplane. Move away from the town you grew up in…it will still exist on the map and you can always go back if you want to.<br />
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~ In the Light ~ KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-24533091053223756902013-12-24T06:45:00.000-08:002013-12-24T06:45:21.459-08:00Self-Sabotage at The Holidays & How to Avoid it It is at this time of the year, the Solstice (the shortest day & the darkest night), that many people take a long hard look at their childhood and their family dynamics and begin to self-talk about the negative and the past. I wish that I had a "magic eraser" or a device like the one in the movie "Men in Black" that could make all recollection of the past disappear for them. The truth is that there are no perfect childhoods, and no perfect families. Trust me on this concept, I have a "bird's eye view" from my reading table.<br />
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Consider this, we remember our childhood through an "imperfect lens" called adulthood. If our childhood was perceived as "very good" it was because we had no responsibilities per say. If you think about it carefully, you will recall no mortgage that you had to pay or rent for that matter. You really had no pressing responsibilities. Your parents carried the burden of these things for you and created a "perfect bubble" to grow up in. So, if your childhood seemed easy, it was!!!<br />
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If you had a less fortunate circumstance that you grew up in, say you only had one parent or lived in poverty, you may see the world through that microcosm which is not the macrocosm. By this I mean that you may see the world as a hard place to navigate based upon your experience during your childhood. Your childhood is the only reference point that you have to go on when making this deduction. But is your childhood the reality of the world as a whole? If perception is reality, then you believe that your perception is correct. But is it really?<br />
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I have been graced with a larger perspective of the human condition based on my being able to step back while doing "the readings" to really "see" what the truth is about people's lives. People aren't perfect, families aren't perfect, and life is imperfect. Self-sabotage comes from a place of ego based reality. We get in our heads about what people must think about us. We don't like the way we look let's say….too fat or too thin. Too short or too tall. Teeth not white enough, hair too thin. You get my drift. Again, we are "in the forest" and cannot see through the trees. Even I, as psychic as I am, have made BIG MISTAKES in my life. (Just ask my mother…LOL) Why? Mostly because I trusted my limited perception as my reality.<br />
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If you find yourself isolating, and judging yourself harshly, remember that people really only care about what affects them. Trust me, they are not thinking about the 10-20lbs you have on your hips…they are thinking about their hips and their weight! I call this the "Look at me now" syndrome. Lucky for us all that people are universally self-consumed.<br />
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Go easy on yourself this holiday season. It is all perpetuated by consumerism at this juncture. Reach out to someone less fortunate than yourself. You don't have to give a gift of anything more than your time and your company. Loneliness in America runs rampant. When we give of ourselves to others, we forget about our own troubles.<br />
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I wish for all of you PEACE ~ Inner Peace~ this holiday season.<br />
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In the Light ~ Karen<br />
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How many of you feel that you have little or no time to reflect on anything or anyone on any given day?<br />
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Our society is in "fast forward" mode, and we have lost site of what the entire purpose of living is meant to be about. If you ask yourself how you define success, you might find that your daily activities are not lining up with what you value. I recently spoke with a man who had achieved great financial success, but had a nagging sense of unhappiness that he could not isolate the reason for on his own. This man owned and rented out many homes, timeshares, etc...was self-employed, had grown and successful children, and a long standing marriage. On the surface, all should have been "sweetness & light"based on these these measurements of success.<br />
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I asked the Tarot for wisdom on the source of his unhappiness, and it answered with the five of cups.<br />
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We spoke about many things during his reading, but the most important thing that came out of his reading was that he decided to sell most of his properties and focus on his marriage and on his grandchildren. This man realized that all the material wealth in the world could not make up for taking the time, which was now so precious to him, to reflect and rebuild relationships that he had left to languish. </div>
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<li>If you are experiencing a lack of happiness, ask yourself what legacy you want to leave in this world?</li>
<li>Were you a good friend, partner, father, mother, son or daughter?</li>
<li>Have you achieved some small success by singing, dancing, or whatever your passion?</li>
<li>Are there places in the world that you would like to travel to see?</li>
<li>What is on your "bucket list" that you need to act on now?</li>
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<b>The time to enjoy is now! </b>Be present in the moment! Be happy with what you have, and not unhappy because you do not have! Let go of regret, and replace with gratitude. This is the day that the creator has made, rejoice and be glad.....</div>
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Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-76322620664476507542013-05-25T14:23:00.001-07:002013-05-25T14:23:48.974-07:00Mom or Dad Loved You Best & Other Family DynamicsA chapter in the book that I am currently finishing writing deals with the emotions surrounding inheritance struggles, and other dysfunctional family dynamics that affect more of the population than you can imagine. As the economy has become more challenging, and the "boomer" generation has aged. I have had a steady stream of clients into my office who are questioning their parent's love for them based on what is left materially for them after a parent passes on.<br />
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In families of two children or more, there often is at least one child who has taken it upon himself to either become a drug addict, thief, or someone who just doesn't ever seem to "grow up" and take on responsibility. I know that sounds drastic and harsh, but it is true. The other child/children in the family end up taking care of the aging parent until their death and then the squabbling begins. At the root of all of this controversy is "who mom/dad loved best." This is often determined by how money was given in times of struggle while the parent was alive, and how the final division was executed after the parent's demise.<br />
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I have seen wills that have been changed to exclude siblings an hour before the person died. I have heard about houses that have been emptied and the contents sold before the probate court has had the opportunity to disperse and execute the signed WILL. (Against the law....by the way) Step-parents who have excluded biological children because they did not "welcome" them when they started dating the now deceased bio-mom/dad. Parents who intentionally excluded children from their wills who did not do "exactly what they were told to do" for a career, or who married someone of a different nationality or faith than the parent wanted. I have seen a sibling leverage other siblings and have them sign over property, worth at least a million dollars, by threatening to "not take care of their mother." By the way, this person was the only one with the financial means to take care of mom. No surprise that she got away with it.<br />
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YES, this does go on in your town every day!<br />
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<i><b>If you or your siblings are in an unhealthy family dynamic, I would urge you to really think through how you want to handle yourself during these times of stress. </b></i>You will not change your parents, and you will not change your siblings. You can, however, absent yourself from this ridiculousness and chalk it up to greed, sloth, and envy. Remember, money and notoriety makes people crazy. Nobody earns an inheritance! Money does not equal love. It may signal "control issues," but it is not love.<br />
My advice based on the years of watching these family dynamics play out is to "walk away" emotionally, protect yourself legally, and pray that in your "heart of hearts" that you will have conducted yourself in a manner that is without regret. I will leave you with this quote below to ponder on this subject. ~ Blessings, Karen<br />
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<span style="background-color: white;"><b><span style="color: blue; font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">“People die all the time. Life is a lot more fragile than we think. So you should treat others in a way that leaves no regrets. Fairly, and if possible, sincerely. It's too easy not to make the effort, then weep and wring your hands after the person dies.” </span><br style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;" /><span style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">― </span><a href="http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/3354.Haruki_Murakami" style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;">Haruki Murakami</a><span style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;">, </span><i style="font-family: georgia, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 18px; text-align: left;"><a href="http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2753173" style="text-decoration: none;">Dance Dance Dance</a></i></b></span>Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-45962992879310154602013-03-10T21:08:00.000-07:002013-03-10T21:08:26.418-07:00When you are torn between two of somethingMany of my clients come to my office because the men/women that they chose in their youth are not the people that they would choose again as they have aged. Inevitably, they meet another person that makes them feel that "spinning around and <i><b>in love</b></i> feeling" that characterizes a<i><b> new relationship</b></i>. To complicate matters, they also have children who are pre-adolescents or teenagers. Their spouse has gained weight, lost their hair, their job, and their libido sometimes due to health issues. I empathize with these folks on many different levels. We are all human and as such we fail as we age. We are spiritual, and we sometimes fail in making good spiritual choices for ourselves. One thing that is always brought up when I suggest that love is not leaving when the "going gets tough" is the question: "Don't I deserve to be happy?"Here is a news flash ~ "anyone that you are paying bills and raising children with" will be boring compared to a romantic getaway with a new partner!<br />
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In this ME society, we have ceased to focus on the WE that is required as a part of any commitment that we make to another human being. Now, if your partner is a selfish person and completely devoid of wanting to go to therapy to discuss changes. You are in the relationship by yourself! You are either making it better or "rowing the boat alone" as it were. Since a relationship requires two people, you might as well leave and GET HAPPY. However, if you haven't opened your mouth to discuss what is wrong honestly and openly thereby giving your partner the opportunity to change, and you just want to bolt out of the relationship ~ think twice! How would you respond if this were done to you?<br />
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Slow down, think twice, finish what you start, and then move on if necessary....<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-41363170564194190172013-01-29T06:03:00.001-08:002013-01-29T06:03:33.172-08:00Relationships: When to Stay & When to GoMany of you know me all too well. You know that no matter your decisions in life that I will love you just the same. I won't blow "happy gas" up your skirt or tell you that all will be rosy, but you will hear the unvarnished truth and be able to hopefully make better decisions for it. For all those who I may have offended with my compassionate honesty, let me apologize in perpetuity. I don't know how to be any other way.<br />
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There are many different types of relationships that we have, but the most painful can often be those that include a boyfriend, significant other, and/or spouse. I joke, lightly, with people in my office that you cannot go back to being just a FRIEND with anyone that you have "swapped spit or sperm" with in the past! Many men see no problem with this theory, but many women do. Even though we are in an age of equal pay under the law and men and women wanting to serve in the same capacity in the military, I will continue to argue that we are trying to change the natural order of humanity when it comes to how men and women see relationships if we cross a certain personal closeness.<br />
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There is a<b><i> wonderful book</i></b> written by a person who was tortured by the idea of letting go of what she had in order to experience a new relationship. I would like to recommend it now to all of you who are in the "Do I Stay or Do I Go" category.<br />
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The book is <u>Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-By-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship </u>by Mira Kirshenbaum. It is in paperback now and I highly recommend it.<br />
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If you are in a relationship and spend a fair amount of your time trying to fix it, or in therapy continually, or find yourself more unhappy than happy. Please seek out a therapist that can help you sort through <u>your own feelings. </u>Many women ask "what does he want?" "What will make him happy?" They need to ask themselves, "what do I want?" "What will make me happy?" Many think it selfish to look at their own needs and worry that they will be "alone forever" if they choose to end a miserable situation. If we face many of our fears "head on" we see that they are unreasonable. There is a "cover for every pot" as my grandmother used to say. If you truly want a relationship, a real relationship, you can have one. No matter your age, girth, social status, etc... All of these obstacles are ego driven and other centered.<br />
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Embrace who you are. Don't spend another moment unhappy. Today is the day that God has made for you. No one, not even a good psychic like myself, can predict how many more days you have to be happy here on earth. Seize the moment.<br />
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<i><b>If you truly embrace the idea that other people's judgments on you have no power over you, unless you allow it, you can come to a place of inner peace.</b></i><br />
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It becomes a bit more difficult when you are dealing with family members, but it can be done. I often say that high expectations of others can lead to disappointment and many clients look at me quizzically. What I am really saying is that we can only be responsible for ourselves. We can HOPE that others live up to our expectations, but if they do not, who is at fault? Them for not living up to our expectations? Or us for placing those expectations on them?<br />
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A good example is the person who is truly emotionally hurt by a person they care about not sending them a greeting card, or recognizing a special event in their life. Should that person recognize your special life event? Perhaps, but if we let go of the expectation that they MUST do what we want them to do we will avoid the hurt and disappointment. Judgments, expectations, all create pain in life. <br />
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On another note, as I have become more well known and somewhat successful in my life's work I have found people that I have trusted and cared about being very unkind toward me. Some organizations have not welcomed me back out of jealousy and judgment, and that has hurt tremendously. Again, James' words have rung in my ears: <i>"What other people think of you, Karen, is none of your business." </i><br />
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Be yourself, laugh out loud, love deeply, let go of expectations/judgments, and remember that as you become more successful in your own life there will always be those who seek the darkness. Show them the light!<br />
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Namaste ~ Karen<br />
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<i><br /></i>Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-77620170239501355082013-01-08T12:35:00.002-08:002013-01-08T12:35:49.480-08:00When Readings Don't Reveal AllRecently,<br />
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I had a very good client of mine come in for a reading about her life and someone dear to her in her life that was experiencing addictive behaviors. Naturally, she loves him and needed to know if this nightmare of addiction was getting progressively better. Many of you know that I prefer to use the Mary Hanson-Roberts Deck because it has within it a "To All Believers" card that most traditional Tarot decks do not have. The "To All Believers" card is the card that says: STOP! You are not God, and you are not meant to know everything that there is to know at this time.<br />
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How maddening for someone like myself who likes to pride themselves on knowing most of the time what is to come!<br />
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Yes, it is true. I have been humbled once again by the power of the unknowable. The cards indicated that the person was running away emotionally by revealing the eight of cups. No kidding, I replied in my conscious mind, but TELL ME if he is getting better. The "To All Believers" card came up again. Why can't I know was my sub-conscious reply? The Judgement card appeared. I won't judge him, if that is the Karmic path, just tell me so that I can direct my client I answered obstinately. The Sun card emerged. I erred on the side of optimism given the absence of the Devil card or the five of cups which would indicate hidden addictions. I think he is going to be o.k. - came out of my mouth. I believe it will be better.<br />
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Long story short, I was wrong. True, it was not pretty. WRONG. Gosh how it hurts to say those words. The young man relapsed that very night. So, why did the Sun Card emerge to give her hope and optimism when this event was going to take place. I forced the cards to give me an answer that I wanted to hear. When the "To All Believers" card emerged 2X I couldn't bear not knowing and I "pushed the Universe." So, it lead me to believe that all would be well in the end. That may be so, but for today it is not and it always hurts to make a mistake. The lesson in all this is for us to remember that it is ALWAYS going to be O.K. eventually! I truly believe that this strong individual has a great chance at kicking this habit, but it is true that it is up to him, not his wife, not a psychic, nobody but his free will choice can save him from his future. He may have been deciding at the very moment that I asked the question to relapse that evening. His FREE WILL may have been hiding the truth. I have had this happen when I tap into a person's energy and they show up as either the Queen of Swords or the King of Swords to the High Priestess (me). Essentially, what that means is STAY OUT of my energy. Sometimes I honor that choice, but when I don't honor the "stay out" in the name of KNOWING out of someone else's love for that person, I can be wrong.<br />
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From now on......if the card of "you are not meant to know" is shown I will obediently answer, humbly, I don't know.<br />
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Humans, even psychic humans, are fallible. Namaste ~ Karen<br />
<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-67660827295912346322012-11-01T11:39:00.000-07:002012-11-01T11:39:24.805-07:00Honoring Ancestors - Honoring YourselfIt is that time of the year when we begin to honor the introspective side to ourselves what with winter upon us and Halloween just having passed.<br />
I just recently moved and found a box of old photographs of loved ones who have since passed on and it brought a tear to my eyes. Honoring our ancestors can bring us renewed perspective and peace within our own lives. These are tumultuous times that we live in, but if we put it in perspective it is no more or less disconcerting than what many of our relatives experienced in their lifetimes. As an example, my grand father was born in 1901 and went through the Great Depression 1929 to 1941, World War I which began in 1914 and lasted until 1918, and World War II which began in 1939 and lasted until 1945. I think back to all that he saw and experienced and I think to myself that life is not nearly as hard although it can seem that way at times. Perspective is an important part of living in reality.<br />
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If you are experiencing trouble with your job, your children, or with your significant other, it would be worthwhile to sit for a moment and think about all that you have to be thankful for. I am not going to turn this into a "focus on the positive" blog, but I wanted to remind you all that the Universe gives you more of what you focus on....so - Focus on the good stuff!<br />
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Namaste~ Karen<br />
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<br />Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-59354182408225809672012-09-09T20:49:00.000-07:002012-09-09T20:49:04.432-07:00Getting rid of the old to make room for the new!I am writing this post because I have spent many hours with tears in my eyes working through the process of getting rid of the old to make room for the new. It seems like yesterday that I moved from Colorado back to Connecticut with a tiny baby girl over my shoulder, a divorce decree, (with the ink barely dry), in my hands, and a depression so dark and so deep that I wasn't sure that I would survive it at the time. The psychological experts say that childbirth, job loss, divorce, death (both my dogs passed on), and moving are some of the most stressful events that anyone can go through in their lifetime. I did them ALL in one year - 2001. I refer to it as my "not so good" year. I am over it now! Time to move on!<br />
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Many of you who have move can appreciate what I am referring to when I say that it is not only physically exhausting, but it is emotionally draining as well. The positive side of it all is that it is a way to "free oneself" of unneeded and unwanted attachments to people and things! I have gotten rid of legal papers, old files, clothes, shoes, toys, books, and fortunately (or unfortunately) friendships that no longer were serving me and my growth as a spiritual being. Along with the giving away of "stuff," I have found HOPE, for the future, and a new positive outlook.<br />
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I would urge all of you to look through your "emotional closets, " as well as your physical surroundings to see if you are carrying burdens that you can now let go of forever. The moment is NOW - LIVE IN THE PRESENT. Hope for the Future, but seize the moment!<br />
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Those are my musings. Blessings. Karen<br />
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Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-84056593175661713342012-08-19T18:55:00.000-07:002012-08-19T18:55:05.174-07:00FRIENDS ~ Let Go and RelaxFriend ~ The title is loaded with all kinds of meaning.<br />
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Why am I writing about friendship? Because many of my clients struggle with what a "real friend" is supposed to be or do. Are friends required to be at your beck and call simply because you personally are going through a crisis? I think that all of us need to examine how much we LEAN ON our friends, and keep in mind that they too have their own "crosses to bear." You never know when you are asking someone to "lighten your emotional burden" only to find out that they are going through a tough time themselves.<br />
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The <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Value_(personal_and_cultural)" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Value (personal and cultural)">value</a> of friendship is often the result of friends consistently demonstrating the following:</div>
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<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sympathy" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Sympathy">Sympathy</a> and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Empathy">empathy</a></li>
<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honesty" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Honesty">Honesty</a>, even in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Truth" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Truth">truth</a></li>
<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;">Mutual <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Understanding" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Understanding">understanding</a> and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Compassion" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Compassion">compassion</a>; ability to go to each other for emotional support</li>
<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;">Enjoyment of each other's company</li>
<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;"><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trust_(social_sciences)" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Trust (social sciences)">Trust</a> in one another</li>
<li style="font-size: 13px; line-height: 19px; margin-bottom: 0.1em;">Positive <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reciprocity_(social_psychology)" style="background-image: none; background-position: initial initial; background-repeat: initial initial; color: #0b0080; text-decoration: none;" title="Reciprocity (social psychology)">reciprocity</a> — equal give-and-take between the two parties</li>
<li style="margin-bottom: 0.1em;"><span style="font-size: x-small;"><span style="line-height: 19px;">The ability to be oneself, express one's feelings and make mistakes without fear of judgement</span></span><span style="font-size: 11px; line-height: 10px; white-space: nowrap;">.</span></li>
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Many people call themselves Friend, although they do not act in a manner consonant with the tenets of friendship. They may take advantage of what you do or who your are in the name of "friendship." But are they really friends?<br />
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Keep in mind that if you perform some task, or have some skill in a any given area, and they ask for your services gratis, or in trade, but then get impatient and go pay for the same service elsewhere and think nothing of it. Perhaps, that is not a real friend.<br />
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After all, friendship should be instantaneous and should provide immediate gratification, to your friend's satisfaction right? Not exactly..............<br />
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If you find yourself surrounded by "negative nellies," "users," or friends who try to "keep you all to themselves," you need to ask yourself if you really need these people in your life. Sometimes you will decide that you do, and sometimes you do not. Having good friends is like "weeding a garden" - if you allow people to take advantage of you what are they?<br />
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Some of the best friends that I have had over the years I barely see, and rarely speak with, and yet when I call or write it is as if there needs to be no excuse given (they know we are all busy), no apology, (for what? They understand). With others, and with the advent of the internet, I have not personally seen them in person for many years, although we live within an hour of one another, and it doesn't feel like friends the way it used to. Nevertheless, if they reach out to you as much as you try to connect with them, then perhaps the "old spark" of familiarity still exists.<br />
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I had one friend, once, where I always drove to see her. Thought of her as a "soul sister" of sorts. Set aside time in my busy life to be there for her and connect. She would inevitably call last minute and cancel, again, with an excuse of one sort or another. Finally, I realized that the friendship was one sided. I stopped calling. The friendship ended because I gave it no energy. If something or someone is negative, starve it by giving it no energy.<br />
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At times in your life, you will have many friends especially when you are young. As you age, your friends may get sick or move, or change. Allow the tides of friendship to flow freely. Some shells of friendship will wash up on the beach intact, others will be dashed on the rocks and broken never to be fixed. It is o.k. - you will make new friends. Let go and relax. They are either there for you in a way that does not create stress or you might consider letting them go. Be at peace with your choices and with your friends. Those are my musings.<br />
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Blessings~ In love and light, Karen<br />
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Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-79772626176524558232012-07-18T05:18:00.001-07:002012-07-18T05:18:57.858-07:00Living Each DayWe all get caught in the day to day frustrations. We have to go to work, bank, grocery shopping, etc...but, sometimes there are things in life that make us stop and think. A wedding, a death, a birth, a picnic with friends, are all moments to stop and savor the moment no matter the joy or the sorrow. If we don't live each day purposefully, we miss the unique opportunity to live "in the moment." I speak with people each day who are focused on money, (fleeting), opportunities, (Ego), what other people think, (futility), family dynamics, (frustrating and unchanging), relationships, (expectations which are often too high). What all of these have in common is that they all will go "by the by" as my grandmother used to say. Try not to let other people's judgements on you or what you do or do not do define you. I often use the example of dropping a pen in front of my client and asking: "If I drop this pen in front of you, are you obligated to pick it up?" They appear startled at first, and then a smile begins to cross their face. The illusion is lifted and they can "live in the moment" with the realization that they are not the reality that others have created for them. They do not HAVE to do anything and that is FREEING because they finally realize that what we focus on is a CHOICE. Choose to focus on the GOOD things as much as possible and good things will come to you. Example, loosing your house to foreclosure....freedom from your mortgage and the ability to move about the country freely! Losing your job, you get to start something new that may serve you better and that you truly enjoy. Live each day with purpose and conviction. Spirit wants you to be happy. Embrace today!Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-45238221045447508062012-05-22T20:01:00.000-07:002012-05-22T20:01:02.526-07:00Toxic People - Boundaries NeededWe all have them, people that we run from when we see their names light up on our phones. These are the folks where NOTHING ever goes right in their world! Whether they are our friends, relatives or co-workers everything in us says "run" "hide" "leave me alone" the minute they contact us. How to cope? Boundaries can be your friend, and you don't have to be rude to be firm. If you do pick up the phone, calmly explain that you are very busy at the moment and although you would love to chat you really don't have the time. If that doesn't work, send them an email that says, "got your message," was thinking of you, but couldn't talk due to family and work obligations. Sometimes it is o.k. to just be "unavailable." We are all so connected what with our iphones, androids, etc....Do you really need to know that your friend is at the bank this VERY INSTANT? Take a deep breath, relax, and as they say: "Keep calm & Carry On." Use a little psychic self defense, and take a bath in Epsom Salts to get the negative stuff off of you! Smudge with white sage! Light a white candle! Get out in the sunlight! Deep Breaths!<br />
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<img align="middle" alt="" height="9" src="http://thinkexist.com/i/sq/as3.gif" title="Author Popularity 6/10" width="11" /> <a class="sqa" href="http://thinkexist.com/quotes/paul_wilson/">Paul Wilson quotes</a></div>Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-60892488774233560372012-05-08T08:00:00.000-07:002012-05-08T08:00:19.427-07:00If Life is a Game, These are the RulesHello everyone,<br />
I've been reading a book called "If Life is a Game, These are the Rules" by Cherie Carter-Scott, Ph.D. and I have found it to be a wonderful guide for reflection on a daily basis even if you only have ten minutes of peace in your life to reflect. I recommend it highly.<br />
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Many people come to a psychic for advice when they already know that the answers that they are seeking are already inside of them. Some of the best readings that I have done are those where my clients leave saying, I knew all of that! Of course you did. You only forgot momentarily because your sub-conscious and your conscious mind were not working in unison. You are a busy person, like everyone, and having someone who does not know the inner workings of your life circumstances mirror to you that indeed your life is as you perceive it to be is powerful. It helps you to stay in touch with you so that you can make better decisions. Knowledge is power, and readings are powerful tools for personal introspection and change.<br />
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Consider having a reading if you have not had one in awhile, you will be glad you did! Always in the Light, KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-86771823010450306452012-03-25T19:44:00.000-07:002012-03-25T19:44:03.986-07:00Why it is important to "Walk Your Talk" with Children & AdultsRecently, a woman came to my office for a reading. This in and of itself would not be startling as that is what I do, "psychic readings." However, she showed up smelling of alcohol from the night before and was about 25 minutes late for her reading. As she sat down, I could see that she was really exhausted and very worried. I began by telling her about her son who was not motivated to go to school, had been doing drugs, and was apparently yelling at her in a threatening way. The woman nodded that indeed this was so, and exclaimed that she just didn't know what to do about her son because he was too big now to "muscle" out the door to school and he refused to go regularly. She was genuinely concerned as a mother, but did not know why this was happening. I told her that apparently her son had witnessed both emotional and physical violence as a child based on her past relationships. He had witnessed his father doing drugs and his mother drinking heavily, and was doing what they had taught him to do unwittingly - be emotionally and physically abusive. The woman seemed confused by what I had just told her. I explained that children learn to behave by what they witness in the home. If you are out of control, or the environment that they grow up in is "out of control," then that is what they think is normal and they will act accordingly. I explained that if she expected her son to be sober, then she would need to model sobriety. If you expect respect, then one has to give it as well. This mom really did want good things for her son, and she began to sob at the reality of the life that she had thus far modeled for her boy. I told her that today could be the day that she changed her behavior and helped him to make better choices as well through her example. She agreed, and I was both relieved and glad that she was able to really hear what Spirit was trying to get through to her. "Walk your talk." Not an easy journey, but a necessary one. Namaste, KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-22817318670984434912012-03-01T10:48:00.000-08:002012-03-01T10:48:54.903-08:00Defining CommitmentsRecently, I had a client into my office that had been dating a man for MANY years. In fact, she had spent most of her fertile years with him in what she thought was a "committed" relationship. She had never wanted to be bothered with children, so it was not an issue that he did not want any or that now that was not an option for her. I told her that her "committed man" of MANY years was soon to tell her that he was "moving on." She did not believe me, and wanted him to give her a "commitment ring." Not an engagement ring, but a "commitment ring." On our next appointment she confessed that indeed I had been right. What she found out was that Mr. committed was moving away to a different state and back with an old girlfriend. What my client now wanted to know was, "were we meant to be together, and will he be back?" I told her that he might come back every now and again for physical fulfillment, but not the emotional "commitment" that she was seeking. I asked her pointedly, and many of you know me well enough to know that I don't parse my words, to please define "commitment" for me in her world. She told me that it didn't include marriage in the traditional sense, but that she was looking for someone who loved her enough to stay with her for life. It would be o.k., but not necessary, for them to live together. She did not want to mingle finances. He had to have no children or grown children that she did not need to bother with all that much, and would need to like to travel with her.<br />
I asked her what the "glue" was that was supposed to hold this utopian relationship together? She answered: "Love." I told her that in the twenty-five plus years that I have been reading for people, I have yet to see this type of arrangement between two people that did not end in someone "walking away" at some point or another because someone better had come along to be committed to! I know that seems sad, but it is true. In today's society, it seems that we want what we want with no commitments to another. Nothing to lose if we walk away if someone gets old, or sick, or frail. No money spent that is ours on another, no problems of theirs will stick to us. How sad we have become, and how shallow to believe that "love is all you need."<br />
I am writing this today because I see plenty of selfishness in our society today, and I believe that it will be our undoing. Looking out for one's fellow man is no longer in vogue, not even if you are in a "committed relationship." When I suggested that when a person commitments their worldly goods and pledges thru marriage to "work it out" my client had plenty of ammunition to shoot down my theory on marriage. She had slept with many an unhappily "married man" and was mystified as to why they did not leave such horrific relationships. The answer was simple: They had "skin in the game" - "something to lose." They had to at least stop and think about the prior commitments that they had made. My client answered that she did not want someone staying with her because of money, or property. True, but then what constitutes commitment in our society today? Have we lost our sense of duty to God, country, and family? What do you think? What does commitment mean to you? Do you treat your spouse with the same care as you did when you were dating him/her? Maybe it is time to "try harder." Set the bar "higher" and get some integrity in our dating and relationships? I am just reporting as the Psychic. If Love is the Beginning, Commitment should be the end. My advice, look for someone who would hold your hand in a nursing home, and feed you soup if need be. I watched a husband do that for his wife the other day while visiting an old friend. Now that in my mind is COMMITMENT!Karen Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1713018151829110171.post-50183632310481096112012-02-16T06:04:00.000-08:002012-02-16T06:04:25.349-08:00Defining Yourself In The WorldI often take a moment to ask myself, how am I defined by my friends, my clients, but most importantly by my personal beliefs. What are my talents, and am I being lazy or am I working to give my best in this lifetime? I think that it is an important question to ask oneself so that our moral compass is not thrown off balance by "things owned" or "other's perceptions." We all have a public persona and a private persona. It is not uncommon for me to go through a box of kleenex a day in my office because people who come to see me are in pain about how they are living their life, and about who they have become. They don't like the way that they are being treated in the workplace and in their relationships, but they feel powerless to stop because bills need to be paid, and children need to be raised. I don't want to get to the end of my life and ask, "what just happened to me?" Therefore, it is wise to take a moment and take stock of who your true friends are, and what commitments that you have made to yourself. This takes self-discipline which is in short supply in the world by any standards. Take a moment and ask yourself; "how am I spending my time?" What does my focus need to be? Am I living an authentic life? What needs to change? What needs to remain? If you do this, you will find what you are avoiding doing, and what you need to focus on more. Those are the words of wisdom for today! KarenKaren Hollishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14657921516296299299noreply@blogger.com2