Readings By Karen

Defining Commitments

2012-03-01T10:48:00.000-08:00

Recently, I had a client into my office that had been dating a man for MANY years. In fact, she had spent most of her fertile years with him in what she thought was a "committed" relationship. She had never wanted to be bothered with children, so it was not an issue that he did not want any or that now that was not an option for her. I told her that her "committed man" of MANY years was soon to tell her that he was "moving on." She did not believe me, and wanted him to give her a "commitment ring." Not an engagement ring, but a "commitment ring." On our next appointment she confessed that indeed I had been right. What she found out was that Mr. committed was moving away to a different state and back with an old girlfriend. What my client now wanted to know was, "were we meant to be together, and will he be back?" I told her that he might come back every now and again for physical fulfillment, but not the emotional "commitment" that she was seeking. I asked her pointedly, and many of you know me well enough to know that I don't parse my words, to please define "commitment" for me in her world. She told me that it didn't include marriage in the traditional sense, but that she was looking for someone who loved her enough to stay with her for life. It would be o.k., but not necessary, for them to live together. She did not want to mingle finances. He had to have no children or grown children that she did not need to bother with all that much, and would need to like to travel with her.
I asked her what the "glue" was that was supposed to hold this utopian relationship together? She answered: "Love." I told her that in the twenty-five plus years that I have been reading for people, I have yet to see this type of arrangement between two people that did not end in someone "walking away" at some point or another because someone better had come along to be committed to! I know that seems sad, but it is true. In today's society, it seems that we want what we want with no commitments to another. Nothing to lose if we walk away if someone gets old, or sick, or frail. No money spent that is ours on another, no problems of theirs will stick to us. How sad we have become, and how shallow to believe that "love is all you need."
I am writing this today because I see plenty of selfishness in our society today, and I believe that it will be our undoing. Looking out for one's fellow man is no longer in vogue, not even if you are in a "committed relationship." When I suggested that when a person commitments their worldly goods and pledges thru marriage to "work it out" my client had plenty of ammunition to shoot down my theory on marriage. She had slept with many an unhappily "married man" and was mystified as to why they did not leave such horrific relationships. The answer was simple: They had "skin in the game" - "something to lose." They had to at least stop and think about the prior commitments that they had made. My client answered that she did not want someone staying with her because of money, or property. True, but then what constitutes commitment in our society today? Have we lost our sense of duty to God, country, and family? What do you think? What does commitment mean to you? Do you treat your spouse with the same care as you did when you were dating him/her? Maybe it is time to "try harder." Set the bar "higher" and get some integrity in our dating and relationships? I am just reporting as the Psychic. If Love is the Beginning, Commitment should be the end. My advice, look for someone who would hold your hand in a nursing home, and feed you soup if need be. I watched a husband do that for his wife the other day while visiting an old friend. Now that in my mind is COMMITMENT!

Defining Yourself In The World

2012-02-16T06:04:00.000-08:00

I often take a moment to ask myself, how am I defined by my friends, my clients, but most importantly by my personal beliefs. What are my talents, and am I being lazy or am I working to give my best in this lifetime? I think that it is an important question to ask oneself so that our moral compass is not thrown off balance by "things owned" or "other's perceptions." We all have a public persona and a private persona. It is not uncommon for me to go through a box of kleenex a day in my office because people who come to see me are in pain about how they are living their life, and about who they have become. They don't like the way that they are being treated in the workplace and in their relationships, but they feel powerless to stop because bills need to be paid, and children need to be raised. I don't want to get to the end of my life and ask, "what just happened to me?" Therefore, it is wise to take a moment and take stock of who your true friends are, and what commitments that you have made to yourself. This takes self-discipline which is in short supply in the world by any standards. Take a moment and ask yourself; "how am I spending my time?" What does my focus need to be? Am I living an authentic life? What needs to change? What needs to remain? If you do this, you will find what you are avoiding doing, and what you need to focus on more. Those are the words of wisdom for today! Karen

Finding Time For What Matters - Not Easy, but Necessary!

2012-01-19T16:36:00.000-08:00

With all of the running around that we all do daily, it is a wonder that we have time at all to "smell the roses" as the saying goes. I don't know about you, but I am often torn in six or more directions at once. We wear so many hats; individual, mom/dad, spouse/significant other, daughter/son, employer/employee. How to choose what to focus on?
I recently was with my daughter at the hospital because she was sick and had to go to the Emergency Room. As they wheeled in an older gentleman on a gurney, I thought to myself "there but for the grace of God go I." I can assure you he was most probably not thinking about how he could have worked harder or longer in his life at that very moment. He also may not have been thinking about how much money he had amassed and how great that was as he lay there in what looked like a very uncomfortable state. He was by himself, at the mercy of the hospital staff. No relatives I heard the ambulance man say. Hmmmm....I thought. Maybe life is not about skipping the gym and not having any children in your old age. Well, at least I have some family I thought. Better keep that gym membership! Now to prioritize. I think I am going to try HARDER to put what matters most first. How about you? Karen

What the disabled can teach us about love and life

2012-01-15T20:11:00.000-08:00

I was reading a story in O Magazine about a woman named Monica Wood that has a disabled sister named Betty Wood. The story is entitled: What Betty Knows. It was so touching that I thought I would link it to my blog. We take for granted and forget that we are blessed with what we call "normal lives." Clearly, it is sometimes those who are disabled that are able to show us what real love looks like.

I have a client with a disabled brother who lives in a group home. This woman is one of the most patient, loving and kind individuals because she has had a disabled brother who has taught her about what it is to be family.

When you pray, pray not for things of great value. Give thanks for little things like the ability to love deeply, hold another's hand, and watch out for another fellow human being. The world seeks perfection, and yet in the eyes of Spirit all are perfect in their own way. Seek truth and beauty, but also seek imperfection because God/Goddess can be found in unanswered prayers as well. In love and light. Karen

How to work through blocks in your life

2012-01-11T05:45:00.000-08:00

I have friends and clients who swear that they are doing everything possible to meet the right person and have a real relationship. I have others like myself who are a little frightened to lose weight for fear they are noticed. Being noticed has its pluses, but it has its minus' too. After all the Hawaiian saying goes: "the tallest nail gets the hammer." Fear, no matter in what area of your life can be paralyzing. Fear to change your job, fear to move on with life, fear to love deeply, fear to become famous.

Mary Ann Williamson's quote is one that I read and TRY (I say that word carefully and with conviction) to live by daily: Here it is for all of you that need encouragement today. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

When a diagnosis of a life threatening nature happens in a family

2012-01-09T15:38:00.000-08:00

Recently, I have had not just a few friends hit with the news that a loved one of theirs might die. This news always shocking is never easy. We feel like we have been punched in the stomach by God. How could this happen, we ask? Why us? I am always asked if this is retribution for something. The answer is I don't think so, I think that it is like fire forging the blade of a sword. Adversity strengthens us.
A dear friend of mine was fine when I saw him two months ago, and is now wheelchair bound and it is shocking on all levels. He used to out ski me on the best and brightest Colorado blue sky days! Now, unable to walk, he is adjusting to his new reality and we are doing the same. The Soul's purpose here on earth is a great mystery. Some say we are here to learn lessons. If that were the case, it would be nice to know what the lessons were in advance so we could move through them quickly and avoid the "yucky" parts. It is wise to take life day by day, and to keep your expectations in check. I have taken to saying thank you on a daily basis for each sunset and each opportunity to be with my child, and my husband. Life is too short to miss the good times. Take lots of pictures, folks. It is sweet to have memories. To all those who are hurting out there, know that I care deeply if you are o.k. There may not be time to connect often, but we will take what we can get. Right? I wish you peace, and less worries. Take Care of you. Karen

What Makes Us Feel Loved

2012-01-08T18:14:00.000-08:00

Recently, I had the unfortunate luck of getting sick with a nasty cold. Like most people I did all the right things. Kept warm, went to bed early to get extra sleep, took echinacea tea, and more vitamin C than one can imagine. Yet, it was the hug from my ten year old daughter that made me feel truly loved. The power of the human touch is powerful, and her sweet words of "mommy, I love you" made me heal more than any medicine ever could.

By contrast, my husband, Mark, grew up in a family where your physical needs were met if you were sick but distance was kept until one felt better. If he gets sick, he goes to bed and you will see him when he emerges from his illness. We can write this off to the difference between men and women, or we can say that some people need more touch and emotion than others. Either way, honoring the person is important.

I would urge all of you to let the ones you love know what you need when you aren't feeling well. If you have a family member with a chronic condition, let your friends know what will help you to cope. We are not invincible. We are Spirits having a "human experience. "

As for me, tea, touch/hug, and an I love you very much will do. How about you? What do you need from family and friends? Karen

Thoughts on dealing with the challenge of "family" during the Holidays

2011-12-14T16:04:00.000-08:00

It's that time of year again when it seems that all human beings are fraught with the knowledge that they might actually have to be in the presence of their blood relatives for a day or two of "fun-filled" festivities. Like the" Swallows" that go back to "San Juan Capistrano" each year, many people feel obligated to go home and spend time with relatives that they neither like, nor agree with on most issues. If they had to pick these people out of a crowd to spend time with them as friends, it would not happen. This brings up feelings of regret, resentments, and depression for past and current slights that have not healed or resolved. It is no wonder that suicides increase during the Holiday season. With some easy preparation, one can avoid some of the hardship the Holidays represent. Know your emotional limitations and absent yourself from people and places that make you upset.

While for some, the Holidays is a joyous time, it is also a "marker in time" for those who have lost a loved one during the year. I often hear, how will I get thru Christmas or Hanukkah without this person that has died? The New Year can also bring feelings of what might have been or should have been in the past and again, regrets.

"Regret is the inability to create a happier past." Therefore, it is imperative that we live our lives in our own truth. What does this mean? It means living honestly and without doing what others want us to do or expect us to do. If we are truly emotionally self-actualized adults, in layman's terms "grown ups" then it doesn't matter what others think of us or don't think of us. Manipulation is not love. When we expect someone to act in a certain way, and they do not, is it our fault or theirs when it comes to expectations being unmet? How does this tie in with going to see family for the Holidays? Well, if you know that your "Uncle Joe"always gets drunk and belligerent after a holiday meal it means that you can either go and subject yourself to the "Uncle Joe" "out of control" show, or you can simply stay for appetizers and a "hot toddy" and wave Happy Holidays as you leave like an adult before all the drama. Will it hurt "Aunt Martha's" feelings? Perhaps, but it may spare you the therapy bills until mid-march when you finally "get it" that staying for dinner with "the relatives" just isn't worth your sanity!

I actually know divorced partners who wouldn't "spit on the other if they were on fire" agreeing to get together over the Holidays for the "sake of the children." This is the equivalent of rolling a hand grenade into a crowd and hoping that no one is stupid enough to "pull the pin." Children are smart. They get it. You don't like each other anymore, and that hurts. It hurts them too. Try to lower the anxiety for their sake and "let go of your ego" so that they can enjoy the day. If this means that Christmas/Holiday is "just another day" for one parent, then so be it.

Meditate, on what I am suggesting and let go of the idea that the Holidays are "supposed to go a particular way." Let go of expectations, overspending, manipulative friends and/or relations. Make plans to surround yourself with people who bring you joy. If all else fails, go to bed and relax. January 1st is just around the corner and with it an all new beginning. Everything in moderation, even "Uncle Joe and Aunt Martha." Namaste.....Karen

How to make sense of physical challenges

2011-11-02T13:28:00.000-07:00

So many of my clients have or are beginning to experience their own physical challenges, or are dealing with the physical challenges of relatives. Depending upon the type and severity of the challenge, getting thru the day can seem daunting. We take for granted the ability to walk, type, or do for ourselves. Many clients have asked me why? Why is this happening to me? Why is my mom dying now? What is my health failing? Why me, why now?
Sometimes it has to do with the universe wanting you to slow down so that you can take a different perspective on life. At other times, it is simply that there is a time for every purpose under heaven.

If you find yourself faced with a challenge, ask yourself what you can do to make your life easier and more enjoyable. What is the up-side if there can be one found. Is there a lifestyle change that you can make that will make it better? Pain is a motivator for sure, be it emotional or physical.
Go inwards and meditate on the question of why? You will be surprised when a voice from deep within answers you. Until then, know that I care deeply about you. Karen

How does mediumship work?

2011-10-18T05:57:00.000-07:00

Many of you have asked how I am able to "hear" those who have passed on. To be honest, it has become a process of learning how to communicate and receive answers. I knew that I was receiving messages thru the cards and so I knew that the Tarot could provide a way for people who had passed over to communicate. The dead communicate telepathically and with symbols primarily. Flowers can mean an anniversary or Birthday that needs to be acknowledged. Pains within my own body can tell me how someone died, or what discomfort that they experienced before they passed on. Once I have acknowledged the pain as not being my own, it will disappear! Sometimes, your friends and relatives on the other side want to say that they are sorry for misunderstandings within your relationships as they have a new perspective after a life review. At other times, they have attended your wedding or party and want you to know they were there. They will give in detail who walked you down the isle, or how the venue looked for the anniversary celebration. The dead live on....Almost all of them will tell me how they died, and all of them attend their funerals mostly to comfort you. If you empty your mind, and sit quietly you can speak with the dead as well. Ask for a message from someone you want to contact, don't judge the information that come thru. Write it down, and go back to it later to see if if makes sense to you. Keep practicing. Mediumship is a process. Love is the connection. Namaste. Karen

When situations change.....and affected outcomes

2011-10-06T21:12:00.000-07:00

Question from a client: Do situations sometimes occur that change a previous reading and recommendations and potential outcomes from months before?
Answer: When a client comes in for a reading, and a psychic accesses the future, what they are "seeing" are events that are in motion based on decisions that have already been made by that person. If two people are involved in a relationship, for example, both of those people have "free will" to change their destiny at any time. If the reading is about your work, and your company decides to move its home office, suddenly, is it possible that the outcome the psychic predicted could be off? Yes, if that decision was not "in motion" in the ethers at the time of the reading it is possible. All this being said, the value in a good reading is that it gives you the knowledge and latitude to make good decisions in your life if situations do change that have not been predicted exactly as you had been told they might unfold in your life. Karen

Psychic Misconceptions - If you were psychic you would know....

2011-09-16T19:21:00.000-07:00

Pam Coronado:

If you were psychic you would know my name. If I never hear this statement again, it will be too soon. I am not omniscient (having complete or unlimited knowledge, awareness, or understanding; perceiving all things)nor is any human that I know. I might be able to "intuit" your name if I concentrate hard enough but why expend loads of energy when you can just tell me? This statement seems funny to skeptics but it stems from a lack of understanding how hard one has to work for accurate psychic information.

Karen Hollis:

There are many people that come for a reading who are not suitably "impressed" with your psychic ability unless you can intuit their name, and/or a name of a relative, or someone dear to them who has passed away. I call this "stump the psychic." They take off wedding rings, as if I will notice or not notice. (Trust me, a wedding ring no longer signifies commitment with all the infidelity in the world. Sad, but true) Some will lie about their names thinking I have "googled them" in advance - (like I have the time for this nonsense), and others will sit "stone cold-faced" thinking that if they show any emotion it will "tip me off" in some way. (NOPE - it doesn't work that way). Some of the best readings I have done are by phone with only your voice to energetically tap into. The best way to have a "psychic reading" is to just be yourself, relax, try to remain "open" energetically without telling the psychic your life story in advance. When reveal too much, you take away the ability of the psychic to know what is a "psychic hit" and what is not when reading your future. A psychic's conscious mind (what they know of what you have told them about yourself) will fight with the sub-conscious mind (what they are getting as a psychic "hit"). Be encouraging by admitting when a psychic is right about a detail in your life, and make the reading interactive so that you get the most out of it.

Karen

Pychic Misconceptions - Pam Coronado & Karen Hollis

2011-09-16T05:55:00.000-07:00

Pam Coronado

Psychics are psychic all the time. I don't know about others, but I turn it on and off at will. If I meet you on the street or in the grocery store, I am not going to know your secrets or your name :) Turning it on takes a great deal of energy so when I'm not working, I'm not on. I'm probably pondering what to make for dinner or the best deal on laundry detergent. Besides, privacy is privacy so I don't think it's right to walk up to strangers and impart private information without being asked. On the flip side, I am more sensitive to my environment, especially the emotions of those around me, which can make me uneasy in crowds and noise sensitive. That aspect never shuts off, which I guess is why we are called sensitives.
Karen Hollis
I tell my clients that I am like that girl in the movie "50 First Dates." Once you leave my office, I probably will not remember your name, whether I have read for you, or anything about your reading. If you come back for a reading, :) It is like I am "Santa Claus" and I know if you have been naughty or nice! LOL Like Pam, I cannot watch anything with violence in it, and I avoid the news because there is way too much harshness in the world. This is not easy as I am married to a man that used to work for NBC nightly news. I leave the room as the television clicks on. If I am standing in the grocery isle, I am not reading you. At the bank, not reading you. Ladies room, yup, you guessed it....not reading you. Could I? Sure, I suppose....do I care to....No. So, breathe easy.....I am just me. Karen

Psychic Misconceptions by Pam Coronado revisited by Karen Hollis

2011-09-13T17:57:00.000-07:00

I wanted to applaud Pam Coronado for writing a series of Questions and then responding with answers that helped to clarify for my clients as well as hers what a psychic is and is not. I will Blog post a few of these in the next few days.

Thank you, Pam!

A real psychic would know all of the answers. I think this widespread misconception has been passed down through the ages by fortune tellers and psychics claiming to be perfect. If you meet one of these, run and don't look back. No psychic is 100%. There is simply no such creature. I get fragments of the story, blurry images and puzzle pieces. I may misinterpret something I saw or worse, miss something important. I get some answers, rarely all of the answers. We are humans, I think the biggest aspect of living on this great planet is in the not knowing all of the answers. There would be no challenge, surprises or mystery if we knew all.

Karen Hollis' comment: This is especially true when dealing with people's relationships issues as both people have FREE WILL to do what they want whether that is engage in leaving the relationship or choosing to stay in the relationship. A psychic can only see as far as a person has made a decision. Think of it as a snapshot in time if you will. If nothing changes, then "this event, meeting, reconciliation, breakup, or whatever" will happen.

How do you create a happier PAST?

2011-08-30T19:05:00.000-07:00

I talk to people every day that live with regrets of one sort or another. Many say things like; " I should have married my high school sweetheart, or I wish I had not married right away." "I should have traveled the world and not had children, or I should have had a child and not been a workaholic. " "I wish I had a better relationship with my mother, or father, and now that I have grown up and can have an adult relationship with them, my parents have passed on." The list of regrets seems endless. If life is a journey, and not a destination then why do we run headlong thru our lives without giving proper consideration to BIG life decisions like marriage, children, travel, & the soul's aspirations? I think it is our EGO that prevents us from allowing us to explore who we are when we are young. We think that we HAVE to HAVE the big home, and the new car, and we actually put more "stock" into what others think about us than about who we really are inside, and who we would like to become later in life so we have no regrets. I have asked people in my reading room what they would like their legacy to be at the end of their lives. Many have no idea what I am talking about, or why I am asking the question. I am asking them because it is mighty hard to create a happier PAST. Once time has "marched on," there are no "do overs." Time is precious. Savor every moment of happiness. My advice as a psychic is to celebrate, whenever and wherever you can, the little and the big things in life that are happy. Weddings, babies, birthdays, picnics, vacations, children, parents, grandparents, all close friendships. No regrets. No should have done it better, differently, etc... Start living. Stop regretting. Start committing to love, to God/Goddess/Spirit/Universe, to family, to yourself. Live in the moment. This is the day that you have been given. Find one happy thing to rejoice in. Karen

Ghost Hunting - Why it fascinates us!

2011-08-24T21:36:00.000-07:00

It will soon be autumn and with that comes the "Day of the Dead" - Samhain - All Hallows Eve. Call it what you wish, we celebrate the harvest and give thanks for life as well as death as the seasons turn. Recently, I joined an official ghost hunting paranormal team named Ghosts of New England Research Society or G.O.N.E.R.S for short. I had been investigating hauntings solo for years at the request of nervous real estate agents, private home owners, and business owners who had unexplained phenomena spooking them. No cameras, no EVP evidence, just me and my intuitive/mediumship/clairaudience ability to guide me. I can't tell you how thrilled I am to finally be with others of like mind that are too looking for hard evidence of what may be "out there - on the other side." Given that we are all human, it is natural for us to want to believe that we all will somehow survive beyond the physical body someday. Recently, Raymond Moody wrote a new book entitled Glimpses of Eternity and it is fascinating reading. Whether you are spooked by what goes bump in the night, or just like to feel an adrenaline rush when you think you feel something brush past you in the dark, you have to admit it is an interesting topic. Tell me your ghost story? Share it here on my blog? Karen

Evaluating time spent

2011-07-17T13:10:00.000-07:00

Recently, I had a client in my office that had experienced the beaches of Normandy, had jumped out of airplanes, been divorced, remarried, and had lost a grown child to death far too young. There is a saying that we are born "square" but life wears us down into a "round" circle that is perfect in every way. For this client, he confessed that he had never been scared although so many things had happened to him in his life. He recently got into a bad car accident, and was told that it was not his "time" to go yet. For this individual, his own mortality was a very scary thing and he broke down and sobbed. It is true that many of us never ponder the time we spend on earth, or how we are actually spending it. If you wake up and slog thru your day because you have to, I invite you to stop and think about what you are accomplishing and what your legacy will be. Is money making you happy? Is the relationship you are in fulfilling? Do you like what you do? If not, maybe it is time to re- evaluate. Not every aspect of your life at once, but each segment a little at a time. Live with purpose. Live up to commitments made. Love deeply, and stop to smell the flowers. Life is short, but it can be sweet.

Practical Magic

2011-06-21T15:41:00.000-07:00

Many of you may not know that the first song that I play in my office each day is the theme from "Practical Magic" the movie! I do this to remind myself that magic is real, and your reality is what you make it. I do practical magic each day in my home by lighting one candle for peace, and one for prosperity. I have a mantle that I place a special cloth on with things that remind me that I am not separate and alone from the Divine. Recently, I put a picture in a frame of a small mouse, out in the snow, that finds an ear of Indian corn to feed it.
The caption reads: Matthew 6:26 See the birds of heaven; they do not put seeds in the earth, they do not get in grain, or put it in store-houses; and your Father in heaven gives them food. Are you not of much more value than they?
It is a good reminder that we may not always get what we want, but we will get what we need. Create Practical magic in your life. Find outward ways to express your inner strength and purpose. I personally have found Scott Cunnigham's book the "Magical Household" to be of help! Namaste - Karen

Trust of the Highest Order - Loving Another Human Being

2011-05-11T05:13:00.000-07:00

Many of us have been lulled into complacency by a relationship that has lasted many years, and then are "blown away" by the very person we trusted leaving us without explanation. It is mind blowing to say the least and devastating. The inability of individuals to articulate that they are unhappy within their relationship leads to infidelity, and destruction. Relationships that end without "closure" leave both parties without perspective and an ability to move forward. Many of us wake up to find ourselves in an unhappy state of being, and because we cannot attribute that unhappiness to something inside of ourselves, we then blame our partner/spouse for that unhappiness. We want change, even if it is destructive, and we assume that change is always the answer. If you find yourself feeling unhappy with your life, consider that this feeling may be temporary, slow down and talk through with yourself and your partner about your unhappiness. Money comes and money go, children grow and leave home, aging happens, and health declines despite our best efforts at fitness. Happiness is a choice, and commitment to work on a relationship needs to be a daily effort. Relationships are like plants, they need to be fed, and have sunlight (fun) in order to grow. Sometimes, holding the hand of the person you care about will need to be enough. Romance comes in the form of a knowing look, and a gentle touch. We are in a society that has such high expectations for everyone and everything. Perfect doesn't exist and certainly not with people in relationships. For today, choose "good enough." Namaste, Karen

When life gives us lemons.....

2011-05-04T05:24:00.000-07:00

How many of us would like to wake up daily to a stress free life? A world where our jobs were always fulfilling, our colleagues were cooperative, our ex-spouses, ex-lovers, ex-whatevers, were out of our lives, and peace reigned eternal from dawn to dusk. Plenty of money to pay bills, children that were perfect, houses that were organized, etc... If there is a heaven, that would be it. Is that realistic? Probably not. Sometimes, doing your best needs to be good enough. Let it be. Live in the present. Not in the past where the pain lies, and we can change nothing. Hope for the future, and do your part to make it the best it can be.
My grandmother used to hum a tune entitled "Que Sera, Sera" and here are a portion of the lyrics:

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

I find it ironic that now that I am a full time psychic my daughter, Erin, hums this tune and plays it on her grandmother's piano.....perhaps, good advice from my grandmother from beyond the grave! Just for today....hum to yourself..."Que Sera, Sera.." Karen

You can lead the horse to water.....

2011-05-02T05:19:00.000-07:00

Remember the saying, "you can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink?" It is like that when discussing relationships with people when it comes to psychic work. People believe what they want to believe about love interests, and they only hear what they want to hear. When our heart is involved, our mind bends and skews information to make it what we want it to be. A person we love forgets our birthday, and we make excuses saying that he/she is too busy, or that we shouldn't be so materialistic, instead of seeing the slight for what it was......an oversight of tremendous proportions emotionally. A lover starts texting a co-worker, and we find the text and believe that it is "all in great fun" and doesn't signal cheating because it isn't physical in nature. Emotional cheating is as prevalent as physical cheating. Trust your head and not your heart. Excuses for bad behavior run rampant. Do not accept bad behavior from someone who supposedly professes their love for you. Have a talk with them, ask them to change their behavior, and if they do not. End it. Stop the excuses. I say this with compassion and conviction. Namaste. Karen

The Story of a Lifetime....why it is important to chronicle your life

2011-04-24T19:35:00.000-07:00

I think that it is important to keep track of one's ancestry. Recently, I came across a journal called "The Story of a Lifetime" which had questions in it that prompted one to really think about one's life, it's purpose, memories from childhood, etc....I decided that I would purchase one and fill it out for my daughter to have when I am gone from this earth. How many of us really know our parents? What made them tick? What was important to them? We may not care in our twenties, but as we mature, so do our thoughts on such issues. One of the most generous things we can do for another we love is to really listen to them, and to spend time with them. In addition, you can also journal for them.
I cannot tell you how many people tell me that someone that they loved died unexpectedly and they so wish that they could talk with them. Recipes that are family traditions, lost forever. Photographs with no names written on the back, wills that are lost, etc..... If you love someone, take the time to leave them your heart on paper. You will be glad you did. Karen

When Psychics are wrong about relationship outcomes

2011-04-22T20:21:00.000-07:00

Questions about relationships are a large part of what I do as a psychic. Many people who come to me are in pain emotionally, and are desperate to hear only what they want to hear regarding a person that they are involved with in the moment. A psychic can predict with some accuracy whether it looks like a couple will get back together or not, but not with absolute accuracy as people have free will. When you are dealing with two people, you are dealing with two free wills, and the possibility of being wrong increases exponentially. Psychics are not God. They may work with the best spiritual intention, but they are not infallible. I see a lack of integrity and honesty in people within relationships, and that is unfortunate. Recently, I was asked to post about being wrong about relationships....so, here is my post. I have been wrong, on occasion, about outcomes, but those who have been my loyal clients know that this is not often. When I have been wrong, it is due to free will. Sorry. Free will can not be overridden. Let a person's actions speak louder than their words. Love with all your heart, but learn to stand on your own in case the day comes when you might need to do so. If you are in psychological pain, seek out professional help. I hope this clarifies how a psychic might be wrong on occasion. Karen

Finding the time for Spiritual Awareness

2011-04-06T10:57:00.000-07:00

Have you ever sat in a class on spirituality that you were really enjoying and thought....wow, I need to do this more often? Or, been at a retreat and enjoyed the quiet time away from significant others and children and thought.....need to do more of this? Me too! It isn't always easy finding the time for Spirit to speak with us, or for us to pray to whatever deity we find solace in. Try to find the time to nurture the spiritual in your home. Turn off the television, put down the ipod, cellphone, facebook page, etc....and spend five minutes just being still. You will find this is very difficult at first, but incredibly rewarding. The chatter that substitutes for actual thought is not real and rewarding. Sometimes, doing nothing is doing something. Repeat after me....you deserve down time. It is o.k. Namaste.....Karen

Why a psychic reading is such a powerful lifetime tool

2011-01-03T06:26:00.000-08:00

There are lots of misconceptions about having psychic readings. Some people believe that tapping into information about upcoming future events somehow changes your "destiny." This is not so. It is true that some events are destined to happen to an individual for their higher good, but reading does not change the future unless you make better choices for your future and you change it through your choices. Think of it this way, if you could avoid issues that are problematic would you not want to know about them to make better decisions? What about happy times? Births in the family? Weddings? Need to make an important decision and there are two different ways to decide? Making the right decision can make all the difference! Dating someone and want to know about the real person's motivations and what they value? The cards never lie! Readings confirm that which you may already know, they can heal by giving answers about past events/relationships, and they can predict good things coming. Everyone needs a little hope, and the cards provide a vehicle for speaking with those who have passed on which can sometimes provide healing.

These ancient tools speak of what the church used to call the seven deadly sins; sloth -(laziness), envy, lust, greed, pride, anger, and acedia as defined as (listlessness, or not caring what happens.) If you think about how many marriages are ended due to pride, and or lust for another, or anger, the divorce rates are staggering. Greed is ruining families, and the envy for what other have creates an environment where few place their priorities in the spiritual and with those that they love. Evil walks the earth in many forms. It is up to us to choose what we value and to keep ourselves in check so that we have no regrets. A good psychic is like a good doctor, or other professional who helps you to keep perspective in your life. I tell my clients that it is not my job to sugar coat the truth about what they are going through, but I do have boundless compassion for the human condition because I live it everyday. I know the readings are powerful, and I believe it is my soul's purpose to witness and/or watch the daily struggle toward enlightenment. Angels come in many forms. Harness the power of a good intuitive reading. You will be glad you did. Karen

Living without Regrets

2010-12-31T22:16:00.000-08:00

Most recently, I was speaking with a group of women who asked me what I thought that the single most important thing was that a person could consciously focus on doing so that they maintained happiness throughout their lives. I had to think long and hard about this as there are so many answers to that question. I came up with the answer that to "live with no regrets" is a very powerful way to live your life. I am often speaking about the need for living with a sense of integrity in my office. If you are in a relationship and it is not serving your soul or your partner's soul, then in order to love without regret we need to be honest and have integrity in the way we conduct ourselves. When we don't put in our best effort and pay attention to our children, spouse, significant other, etc.....we will ultimately regret our actions. For example, when my nine year old daughter sometimes asks me to snuggle with her in bed before going to sleep, and after prayers, I make it a point to do so because one day she will be grown and gone and I want no regrets. Have you ever noticed that we often treat strangers with more courtesy than we do our relatives. Think about the outcome of your actions, and then ask yourself if you will regret it if you do or do not do what you are planning. Life comes at you quickly, but if you make a mistake you can own up to it so as to live with no regret. In 2011, let's all try to think through how much energy we are giving to our spirituality, then our family, and then to our work. Balance is the key to unlocking the door to NO REGRETS. I wish you a lifetime of thinking through what you really want to make you happy. Karen

Dealing With Your Own Mortality

2010-12-01T05:40:00.000-08:00

Many people ask me what it is like to speak or deal with the dead on a daily basis. Communication with those who have passed is called Mediumship and it is a very specific skill that I believe can be taught. The issue with speaking to those who have passed is tricky in that it brings up the issue of your own mortality. We seem to be fine as long as death is happening to someone else. We say things at funerals that sound like...."I am so glad that so and so passed as they were suffering." Somewhere around the mid-point in your life you may experience the consequences of smoking, drinking, or eating in excess. Body parts start to fail, and you are forced to consider your own mortality. It isn't a comfortable pondering, but I believe it is necessary for the soul's growth. Without these "markers" to remind us of the sanctity of life, the blessing that is the ability to see another sunrise or sunset, we would take time for granted. Savor the kiss of the one you love. Listen carefully to your children. Cherish your parents. Time waits for no man. Take stock of your life and change your attitude if need be. Live fully. Live honestly. Happiness cannot reside where integrity ceases to exist. Live in your truth. Move forward and don't look back. If you do these things you will invite contentment into your world. Karen

Mediumship - The "Red Phone" to the "Other Side"

2010-11-14T14:06:00.000-08:00

Many people ask me to do mediumship as a part of their reading. Let's face it, everyone has lost someone that they dearly love, to death, and they miss having conversations with them. The problem is that I often don't have the "red phone" to the other side. By the "red phone" I mean that I cannot just suddenly ask to speak with someone and get an immediate answer from that person who has died. If you think of it this way it will help....Say you called your mother on the telephone and she was in the shower and couldn't speak with you at that very moment. You would certainly understand as she was not expecting your call, and you would call back later or leave a message. Right? O.k. - so, why is it any different with people who are dead. If the dead live on, then wouldn't it make sense that they might be busy right when you are asking for them to speak with you through a psychic/medium? Lots of folks think that Grandma and Grandpa are just hanging around them and waiting anxiously for a chance to come through and give a message. It is not like that! People are the same as when they were alive. They don't get "better" after death, or more available, or more patient. People are people, dead or alive. It is best to make an appointment with them by speaking to them, out loud, a few days in advance of getting a mediumship reading. Let them know that if it is possible you would like to receive a message from them. The dead will communicate telepathically with the living. They will show a favorite flower, or indicate an anniversary date or Birthday date. Many will use a favorite joke as a way to connect. Some have mentioned notes in their casket from family that they know the contents of and refer to. Favorite songs, pets, etc...are ways that they reach out to the living. Make appointments, remember them on special days, and know that they live on a different plane of existence. Anyone who claims to have the "red phone" to the other side is kidding themselves. The dead communicate only through the grace of God. It is true that love never dies.....Blessings, Karen

Managing Expectations & Perspective

2010-11-10T19:31:00.001-08:00

When we expect people to do or act a certain way and they do not, who is at fault? Really, this is not a trick question. Who is at fault? I would argue that when we expect something that is truly not in our control it is our expectation that is to blame. We can only control how we act or react to what others say and/or in fact do. I often see that we are our own worst enemy when it comes to keeping expectations in perspective. The Holidays are around the corner and already my phone is exploding with calls from folks who dread spending time with relatives. Spirit will often suggest that in karmic family relationships it is often a test to see if we can maintain boundaries, and stay non-judgmental. This holiday season you may want to try to remove yourself emotionally from highly charged family gatherings and maintain perspective. Be there in body, (the physical), without being there in spirit, (emotionally). Keep the visits short and sweet. Stay away from having expectations that family dynamics will miraculously change for the better. Your family gathering does not have to resemble a Norman Rockwell painting to be successful. Refuse to be baited into family dramas. Politely leave if you feel an argument brewing. Thank your hostess, and don't do or say anything you are likely to regret. Remember, when we cut people out of our lives it is we that suffer most. Don't be that person! Expectations and Perspective. Blessings, Karen

Crazy Little Thing Called Love

2010-11-08T15:53:00.000-08:00

As a professional psychic, I would say a good 80% of readings deal with some type of relationship issue whether it be lover, family, or work. I also see just about every variation on love triangles that can be imagined. Many people think that just because they meet someone in an unusual way, they are "meant" to be together. The movie "fatal attraction" has nothing on some of the life stories I hear. Love can indeed make people crazy, or if not crazy at least not in their right mind. It is important to ask yourself if the actions of the person that you are in the relationship with are loving. If the person says that they are going to call, and then they don't.....that's not love. If you are planning on going out for the evening and the person does not show up, or call to reschedule.....that's not love. If the person lies to you.....that's not love. If the person blames you for their bad behavior, or always makes it somehow your fault....that's not love. There are some married couples that put their marriage up on a shelf to whither and die. They never say a kind word, go out of their way, or show compassion for their spouse.....that's not love. If you are in a love relationship for money, it is a gilded cage of your own making. Some justify affairs because they get no attention from their spouse.....that's not love. Happiness cannot live where deceit dwells.

Find your true love, and love deeply but as Kahil Gibran wrote:
On Marriage

Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

Famous Clients

2010-11-07T17:32:00.000-08:00

Recently, I had a famous person visit my office suite for a reading. No, I'm not at liberty to say who it was...but, I did want to comment that the more that I read for people the more I notice that all lives are the same no matter how famous. Some people have money challenges, and some with money have relationship challenges. Others who don't have relationship challenges have health issues. It seems that we are all challenged according to our own soul's need for growth. Life isn't fair my mother used to say. I think that it matters how we meet our individual challenges. For instance, we can say we are poor but if we have love of family are we really poor? We can say that relationships have ruined our lives, but then we look at our children who are a result of the relationship and aren't they a blessing? I have people that come for readings all the time that are really hurting, and sometimes it is just a matter of perspective on the issue. Next time you are really upset, ask yourself, is it worth the upset? Will being upset change anything? Then, say the words CANCEL right out loud when you know you need to change your attitude. Famous or not, we are all the same. Namaste. Karen

How to deal with Fear and Anxiety

2010-11-01T05:36:00.000-07:00

If you are like myself, when something goes wrong you start to worry and get anxious. Does this ever amount to solving what is creating the fear and anxiety? No, of course not. Remember that the universe gives you more of whatever you are thinking about. Like attracts like. So, if fear and anxiety are ruling your life then the universe will give you more of it. Always say the word "Cancel" out loud after you realize that you are worrying. Re-direct your thoughts to something more positive. You will draw more positive to you. Something as simple as being thankful for a sunny day will make the difference. There is always someone less fortunate than yourself in the world. If you have food to eat, a place to lay your head at night, and at least one friend in the world you are lucky enough. Don't let work rule your life, do one thing today that makes you smile. Karen

Is everyone psychic or are some people born psychic? a "Gift"?

2010-10-25T16:04:00.000-07:00

I am often asked if I knew that I had "the gift" at a young age. I always chuckle to myself when people call it "the gift." I am not sure where the phrase came from, but I sure can't see what's coming for myself so it isn't the "gift" that keeps giving to me! HA! In any case, my thoughts are that all people are intuitive to a degree. Just like some people play sports better, due to a natural talent, I believe that some people are born with a little more propensity to be intuitive. I happen to believe that being psychic can be taught. In fact I know it can be taught! I teach it. I see people every day who have some talent and then develop what they have until it suits them and their need to know. If you think with your conscious mind all of the time and base your decisions on your head, instead of your gut, then you will not develop your intuition. We get into trouble when we only make decisions with our heart, or with our head. However, if you trust your instincts and listen with your heart, while using your head...you will not be lead astray. Developing intuition/psychic ability is possible with practice. It isn't hard, just try practicing every day. Blessings, Karen

The secret to life is letting go

2010-10-22T13:38:00.000-07:00

Every now and then I get someone that I am reading for that tells me that "Life is not fair" and I have to reflect on that statement for awhile. Some people are lucky with finances, and some are lucky in love, and then there are those individuals who just seem to get the short end of the Karmic stick as it were. It really does make a professional intuitive sit back and think.....why?

Only the universe knows why bad things happen to seemingly good people. My response has always been to have empathy and to try to provide answers as to why these things have happened to them. We seem to be plagued with needing to know why something has happened. I am proposing that we let go of the why and embrace the now so that we can fully live in the present before it becomes the past. Whew! There was a mouthful of philosophy. But truly, letting go is the answer isn't it? Think about it. We cannot change the past. We can only live in the NOW and do our best in the future. Try it. It will lead to more happiness. Blessings, Karen

Welcome to the "Readings By Karen" Blog!

2010-10-21T05:36:00.000-07:00

Hello & Welcome!
Many of you know me from having used my services as a psychic in Rocky Hill, CT. I have created this blog at the urging of our clients, like yourself, who like to discuss all things psychic and paranormal. There are so many questions that people have about what I do and how I do it that this blog is the most efficient way to address those issues. If you have specific questions about your life, please remember that I will not address those on this blog, please call 860-665-8024 and book a private and confidential readings to address your issues. Welcome! Karen