Sunday, February 4, 2018

What is Heaven Like According To The Dead

Many of you know that I strive every day to be as accurate and evidential as possible when bringing through messages from the dead. The dead will use symbols like a stethoscope if they were in medicine, or a hammer if they were a carpenter, to let me know what they did for a living. They will show me these symbols clairvoyantly in my mind. They will tap my wrist if there was a bracelet passed down to a family member or friend, or touch my ears to let me know that earrings were left to a loved one. The one thing that they will rarely answer me on is questions about what "heaven" is like. Recently though, I did get some insight from two clever Spirits.

 One was the brother of one of my clients who was a Budweiser fan. I was doing a mediumship reading by phone when I saw my client's brother holding up a can of Budweiser in my mind, clairvoyantly. I told her that he was doing this, and she laughed hard. "Oh yes, my brother loved his Bud," she said. Then, I heard him sing to me, Karen, "In heaven there is no beer, NOT!"Which means that there really is BEER in heaven?!? What a CLEVER brother she had! He gave me a valuable clue and insight into his world. Whatever you think of alcohol on earth, it may be in the afterlife!

The second Spirit came through quite unexpectedly when I was doing a mediumship session at an event. The Italian mother in the family had just lost her mother and desperately wanted to hear from her. That lady came through and made mention who she had met "on the other side" to greet her. It was her sister, Mary. The woman's husband, named Tony, was sitting beside his wife for moral support while I was giving his wife the messages from her mom. All of a sudden the energy changed and I felt that I had a man wearing a "butcher's apron" splattered with blood standing next to me. I felt him, and I saw what he was wearing in my mind. The man told me that he was related to Tony, in fact he was named Tony. I let the living Tony know about "butcher, Tony" standing next to me in Spirit. "Get rid of him" said the living Tony! OMG I said, why? Because he wasn't a good person in life, exclaimed the living Tony. I turned to the Spirit, Tony, and asked him to please leave. He replied, "tell him his namesake is  not in hell!" Then he laughed and left straight away. I relayed the message to the living, Tony and asked him who that was as it felt like it might have been family to him. The living, Tony, replied that his name was "Tony the Butcher" and he was a hitman for the MAFIA back in the day! Wow, just wow....
What makes this so interesting is that Tony "the butcher" had let me know that he indeed was NOT in a bad place we would call hell. So, does that mean that there really is NO HELL? Or, is it just that this man who had done less than honorable things wasn't in a place we would consider to be hell.

I have seen the dead holding their beloved pets who are licking their faces while they relay to me that they have "scruffy" the dog with them safe and sound on the other side. Clearly, it is a relief to know that love does not die whether human or animal. I have watched cats walk by, clairvoyantly, and shake their tails in a greeting of "hello!" Take heart folks....our wonderful pets will greet us when we cross over. Most of them are cared for by relatives and friends until we too "walk over the rainbow bridge."

I will continue to update all of you from time to time with new insights as to what heaven is like as clues come through. Until then, keep the faith! ~ In the Light~ Karen

Sunday, January 15, 2017

Getting and Being Real in an Upside Down World

"Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, Sad as it is, I must leave you."
 ~ Quote from The Princess Who Believed in Fairy Tales

So much emotional pain could be averted if people truly thought through what they wanted before starting a relationship with the wrong person. Many clients come in asking why they have spent literally years trying to make lukewarm relationships work. Equally confusing is the phenomena of people pulling "disappearing acts" or "ghosting" after getting intimately involved with others. People tell me that they want closure and not open-ended unrest after intimate relations with essentially strangers in their lives. So, let's talk about this.

In the beginning.....
We, as human beings, are the sum total of what we saw as behavior growing up from our parents, and society. Period. Times have indeed changed, and we can argue that we need daycare and things are most certainly expensive but what a child sees at a young age they will emulate. If they see arguing, alcoholism, abuse, both physical or emotional, then that will be what they consider love. Lack of commitment, absentee parents, and a society that skews right from wrong leads to misery. The first place to begin is with what you observed as a child. How did your family show love? Were you given "things" or were you encouraged to perform given your God given strengths. Was love withheld unless you did what was expected of you? How was money treated? Was is a commodity to be used to create joy and security, or was it made into a God to be only saved and counted, and used to control others? All of this matters when picking out a partner in life. Why? How we order our world depends on how it was explained to us as children through the actions of the adults who were most instructive in our lives as we were growing up. It pains me to see a child screaming "mommy" in a store as the mother is texting on her cell phone, or mindlessly talking to some other adult not understanding that the message she is sending to her child is "you don't matter." How you feel doesn't matter, what you think doesn't matter, and I simply don't care as your mother is what that child is hearing. We then wonder why this same child will grow up to be abusive towards a partner who is "crying to be heard." Childhood matters, parenting matters, right and wrong matters.

Enter adulthood.....
Hooking up, sexting, friends with benefits. Sounds fabulous right. No responsibility and all the thrills. Until reality strikes and we have feelings toward the other person. Why can't I be like other people my clients exclaim? What people, I reply, aliens? What kind of people think that sex without emotion is truly possible? When we don't get real with ourselves about what will constitute good choices in our lives we make mistakes. Sometimes big ones. I often like to quote The Velveteen Rabbit by Margery Williams. She talks about what constitutes becoming REAL. Read Below.

          "What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?" 

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real." 

The phrase "not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become Real" is key. Do you want a real love? or a fake love? Do you want to be Played with? A love that hides behind words that have no real meaning, or one that endures a lifetime? Get REAL folks! It is the ONLY way to happiness. Up is not down, right is not wrong, money does not buy happiness, and actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. If your childhood left much to be healed, and you are struggling to know what love really is swear off these Fake relationships. Put requirements on what you expect and deserve in a relationship. Walk away when you are not getting what you need. Love does not have to be hard, and it does not have to hurt. If that is what you saw as a child, then the internal narrative in flawed and it is time to "hit the reset" button and GET REAL. No one will love you the way that YOU LOVE YOU. Speak your truth, stand up for what is right and just no matter the consequence. Live in the Light. No Answer is an answer. No change is an answer. No closure means walk away and is closure in and of itself. Do unto others as they would do unto you is a nice fairy tale and a great "playbook" if everyone were playing by the same rules! See people for who they are, not who you want them to be. I promise you, if you GET REAL, it will bring you joy. 
~In the Light~ Karen

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Bibbidy Bobbidy Boo ~ Finding Your Forever Love

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Mark Hollis and I met under the clock at Grand Central Station in NYC on September 5, 2003. Prior to that I joined all the dating sites on the web and was actively looking for my "forever love." I have to say that my Big Angel that year was my husband, Mark. Sent to me by Spirit, and a wonderful match for my life's work and my daughter.

The previous year had been a blur. My custom home in CO had almost burned to the ground in a CO wildfire, (a forest ranger had burned a "love letter" near my home in Conifer CO in 2001), and my house was saved by one slurry plane.

 (You can't make this up folks!)

I was laid off while I had been pregnant with my daughter, Erin, during a Joint Operating agreement between two newspapers. My husband, Kevin, had left me for another woman while I was pregnant after putting him through software engineering school for many years. No explanation from him after 14 years of marriage. Life was definitely not o.k. How many stressors is that? Pregnant? unemployed suddenly? Needing to move cross country? Divorced? New parent? Wow!

Here I was single again after all these years....Yippee. (Not)

It was time to make lemonade out of nothing! I was even out of lemons. LOL
So I did. I squared my jaw and said: "that's it, I'm tired of giving and not getting. Tired of being alone. SO, I employed a little "love magic" by asking for exactly what I wanted in a man. Tall (o.k. so 6'5" is a little overdoing it), smart, (Mark's IQ is off the charts), Spiritual, (Mark was an "Emissary of Divine Light" ) www.  and compassionate, (my husband is one of the nicest people you will meet).

The "magic" was my determination to not settle for no one, or the wrong person, or to "give up!"
"ASK and you shall receive, SEEK and you will Find, KNOCK and it will be opened unto you" Matthew 7:7

If you want to go into medicine, you put the effort into medical school, right? If you want to be a teacher, you get your Master's degree, right? SO, if you truly don't want to be single why are you sitting on your couch waiting for the right person to come along? What are the chances of that happening, right? If you fail once, try again.

PUT IN THE EFFORT! If you truly want something, go out and get it.

It seems that we believe this principal was long as it has nothing to do with LOVE and SELF-Worth!
You are worth it, you deserve to be loved, you can do this. I know you can. I did it.

"Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you, if your young at heart." lyrics ~ Jimmy Durante

Keep the Faith ~In the Light~ Karen

Friday, August 12, 2016

The Vessel that Cradles The Grief of Humanity

Clients often ask me how I strengthened my "gift" and for advice?

 Most recently, I sat for about a half hour and really thought through my answer in a very mindful way. There is no easy answer to that question because everyone learns differently. I first sought out a reputable person who I thought knew what they were talking about and asked them. Luckily for me that was a kind, and wonderful mentor and friend named Virginia Randolph. Learning to be more intuitive took years of study from everyone that I could find who would teach me about what they knew and how they did what they did. I took what I thought was the best advice and what rang true to me and implemented it into my own way of reading. I also read every book I could get my hands on. I was led by Spirit to the right places and people and you will be too.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I bristle when people call intuition a "gift." I agree it is in some way special and it is a privilege given by God/Source/Spirit, but I would not call it a "gift." It comes with a heavy responsibility to have humility and be the vessel that cradles the grief of humanity.  You are witnessing here on earth "man's inhumanity to man" and the physical, emotional, and sexual struggles of the human race. If you choose the path of the psychic, you will be called "crazy." Many will scoff at you and suggest that you "think you are something," whatever that means. Some will call you a fraud. Others will cherish what you have to offer, which at its best is a glimpse of the spark of the Divine.

If you listen to your heart and help everyone in your own way, without judgment, you will have done your best. Make sure you are compensated so that people respect your time and efforts, and above all be true to yourself! Beware of the folks I call the "newly spiritual" who tell you that there is only one way to do things, and that is their way. Trust in yourself. Stay positive. Rest when you get weary of what you witness here in the realm known as earth. Know yourself well. Meditate. Pray. These are all my thoughts.

If no one else believes in you, know that I believe in you and Spirit believes in you.
~ In the Light~ Karen

Sunday, June 19, 2016

Messages From Loved Ones & Grieving and Timing

It is normal when a beloved family member or friend passes away to go into a state of shock when receiving the news of their death and immediately want to know if they are o.k. The grief can be excruciating if the person was connected to us by love. For many, what we thought we knew about life after death is filtered through the lens of our religious upbringing or the lack of that religious bent in our lives. Some people believe in an afterlife, and others feel that when we die it is over. Whatever you believe becomes your reality when faced with death. But what if love was the "bridge" between the two realities? What if the energy that is our Spirit simply crosses into a new reality that is similar, yet different than what we experience here in the physical? How soon should we seek contact with the dead? Sometimes too soon will leave us in deeper despair because the message we desperately want to hear either does not come because the Spirit world feels that it would plunge us deeper into despair, or the dead also need time to heal and process from their arduous transition.

It is said that there are many stages to the grieving process and as a Psychic/Medium I have often counseled people in a spiritual way that it is not that the dead don't want to connect with the living, it is that the living are in shock about the dead and are not ready to process the messages that are given.
We want to pick up the phone and call our loved one "direct" and have a chat with them as if they are still alive. Unfortunately, communication with the dead is based on symbolism and energy thought transference between the deceased and the Medium. A Medium sits between two worlds energetically. They are the "bridge," if you will, between two realities. One made up of the physical and the other made up of pure energy. Television mediumship has been edited to only show the "amazing" messages that come through from the Medium to the audience. Good mediumship is like mixing the perfect cocktail. It is one part love, one part talent, one part good interpretation, and a damn good energetic connection. The most important part of receiving a good message is to be open to all of the information that comes, and to all the communicators that come.

Many times, the first Spirit to come through is one that is energetically a good match with the Medium and may not be the person that you wanted to hear from like your mom, or your dad.  By this I mean that the Spirit communicator who comes can link and blend well with the Medium energetically. Knowing that you have a dead person wanting to communicate with you is akin to feeling someone walk into your personal space but you just cannot see them. A Spirit can only use the "vocabulary" that the Medium recognizes to communicate. I am clairaudient, which means that I can hear Spirit the same way I can hear a live person. I am clairvoyant, and that means that Spirit can show me photos in my mind and other objects to relay a message. I can also feel Spirit, so they can overlay their physical ailments to let me know how they died or what they died or suffered from. I always say it is through the GRACE of God that I am able to get messages from the dead to the living. Mediumship takes years of dedication to develop and requires a blind faith on the part of the Medium that LOVE conquers the divide that death creates.

If you are grieving, you are not "tracking" and are often in a "fog" due to the shock and emotional process of letting go. You may to hear that your loved one is "happy" now that they have "crossed over," but the truth is that I can only tell you what I am being told ethically. Sometimes that message is "I am o.k. and you too will be o.k." This is especially true with suicides. So, try to keep an OPEN MIND when hearing messages and don't demand to hear only what you want to hear. We tend to have a pre-planned conversation that we would love to hear from the Medium in our heads and we miss the wonderful messages of love and memories in the process.

Love is the bridge that unites and connects us in life, and so it is in death. Honor what messages you get from your loved ones in Spirit and try to let go of the Medium didn't acknowledge your mom's photo in the left front pocket of your jeans! Mediumship is not a "circus act"or a performance that is rated like the Olympics, it is a sacred communication sanctioned by Source/God/The Divine and needs to be treated with that same respect. If you seek Mediumship, do so with love as your only expectation. ~ In the Light~ Karen

Friday, March 11, 2016

Finding Love ~ Soul Mates, Twin Flames, & other Fairy Tales!

In this crazy world where divorce and separation happen all to often to those we love, what does it take to find the love of your life? Would it surprise you to know that the words patience, perseverance, and courage apply when looking for love in 2016?

Social Media has given the illusion that we are globally connected because we can comment Facebook with regard to a photo posted by a friend, Tweet about something interesting, and Tinder whether we are looking for love. When we use the words "Soul Mate," and/or "Twin Flames" we are creating an expectation of perfection in another human being that I would argue does not exist. Our grandparents, and their grandparents, did not have this same high expectation of love in the past. People met, fell in love, settled into a routine, and sometimes got complacent in their marriages/relationships but this did not mean that they did not love their partners.

Today, we expect our prospective partner to know what we need physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually before we say what we need. Is that realistic? To expect that the "spinning around in love kind of love" will last forever? I would suggest that these phrases do more harm than good in today's world. Men and women are switching roles, shouldering more debt, working more hours, spending less time making memories with their children, and then they are expected to be their partner's "Soul Mate" every day of their lives. If not, we divorce too quickly. Cheat too readily. Leave children torn between two parents, and wonder why at mid-life there are so many suicides, and addictions in the world.

The way to love is to show patience and kindness to your partner/spouse. The words please and thank you need to be a part of our lexicon and daily home life. Children know who tuck them in at night and who actually cares whether their lunch is made, or provided. FaceTime is not a substitute for parenting in person. The words you look handsome today or pretty are always nice to hear. Balance in all things.

Finding love may mean taking up a new hobby, getting off your couch, learning a new skill set, going to an event, signing up for a seminar, having coffee with friends who know other friends, or just plain making room in our lives. There is no magical way to meet the love of your life. If you are older, and hopefully wiser, you will need to decide out of your list of "must haves" what is most important in a significant other and maybe even need to compromise if you want that companion in your life. The most important thing that you can do when looking for a life partner is to know what you will and will not tolerate. If someone is inconsistent in their pursuit of you, they don't value moving the relationship forward enough. Let them go. If they are too broken to truly commit or love again. Let them go. If they value money too much and say they will never commit or marry again, believe them and move on. I believe that there are people that are still honest and have integrity in the world, but they are not going to "parachute" in onto your couch on a Saturday night unexpectedly. If you are committed to finding the right person for you, then value yourself enough to commit to putting some effort into the search. You have a job opening entitled "love of your life" ~ people have a resume, "themselves" and either they qualify or they don't. Take back your power, and live your life courageously. Make it happen for you by committing yourself to being open to new friends.

Remember, "dreams do come true and it can happen to you if you are young at heart!"

 Sometimes, Cinderella does really find her Prince or Princess but be prepared to kiss ALOT of Frogs!

~ In the Light ~ Karen

Sunday, June 28, 2015

Remote Viewing ~ Sweat & Matt ~ Pitfalls

Remote Viewing is a psychic skill that is very specialized indeed. Not all psychics and mediums have the skill level or talent for remote viewing and it is associated with the talent of clairvoyance a.k.a. clear sight.  According to Wikipedia, remote viewing is the practice of seeking impressions about a distant or unseen target using subjective means, in particular extrasensory perception (ESP) or "sensing with mind." I was trained in my twenties by a phenomenal psychic named Virginia Randolph on how to do remote viewing. She and I worked on many cases in the eighties and nineties having to do with missing objects and more importantly, missing persons. Remote viewing can be a powerful tool in helping to locate and solve cold cases as well. Virginia taught me that time is not linear as we know it. We are Spiritual Beings having a human experience, and not the other way around. We can go back in time as easily as we can move forward in time. All we need to do is say "take me there, Spirit!" "Show me the detail," "Let me see it through their eyes." However, you must also recognize that it is possible to get turned around directionally in a remote view session. For me, it is like walking through a mirror (the proverbial "looking glass") and everything is turned around. North can appear to be South, and East can appear to be West. I can see the smallest detail if I look closely enough in my remote view, and yet be off because of distance or direction. I am working hard at correcting this issue within my own skill level. It will take time and dogged determination to succeed over many years no doubt.

I like to combine tarot cards with remote viewing to double check my understanding of what I have seen. Recently, I kept seeing a bright light overhead when I asked to literally see through the eyes of David Sweat and then respectively, Richard Matt. Two convicted murderers on the run in upstate NY. I kept hearing (clairaudience a.k.a. clear hearing) that they were "looking for the light." Well, that could mean in retrospect that they were watching above them for helicopters with night vision so that they would not get caught. Police thought that during the case there was a sighting of the two by train tracks. Were they looking out for the light on the front of the train so as not to get run over? I brought out the tarot cards to double check myself and got The Hermit card. The Hermit stands holding a lone lantern up in front of him. Yes, indeed they were looking for the LIGHT. But, which light? The helicopter? The Train? The Light of God? The North Star?

So, back to my remote view. I said, "Spirit, show me again through their eyes." Once again, I see (clairvoyantly) a long road with water to the left of me and a field to my right. I am looking for one single light! I am not sure which of the prisoners eyes I was using to see with, but I could clearly feel that if I could just see that light I would better be able to make good time on foot to Canada. I pulled a card from the tarot deck in the Tarot For Life Class on this subject and I then got the King Of Cups.
Single Light, and the King of Cups is SURROUNDED BY WATER. So, I deduce that the cards are pointing towards the light being a lighthouse! Makes logical sense that upstate NY is by water. Canada is the destination based on an earlier remote view indicating an Ottawa postage stamp on a letter in one of the prisoner's cells. Their are waterways that lead to Canada so the light must mean they are looking for a lighthouse! WRONG Drat! Drat! & Double Drat! Cards were indicating that Richard Matt had found liquor in one of the cabins and was DRINKING prior to him being caught and shot to death. King of Cups can also mean "THE DRINKER." These were two SEPARATE pieces of information in the remote view from Spirit. First piece of information: They were following train tracks that lead straight to Canada! The Hermit's Light was the Light on the FRONT OF THE TRAIN. Second Piece of information: King of Cups meant that alcohol was impairing Richard Matt's judgement on what direction to go as he was DRINKING to reduce his anxiety.

I kept seeing and sensing a wood exterior as a place of shelter. Came across in the remote view as a "tee pee style lean too." Felt wood all around me. Turns out that the prisoners had broken into a hunting cabin with steep roof lines to keep the snow off it. Remote viewing is difficult in that it is hard to distinguish between wood, metal, and especially plastic. Direction of TICONDEROGA the Fort came in that it is the same longitude and latitude as where both prisoners were eventually caught and shot. The Ticonderoga area was too far North from the Franklin county line as it turns out. The Fort that I thought I saw in the remote view was Fort Covington and NOT Fort Ticonderoga. Directionally challenged as a part of the viewing.

So, I wanted to share with all of you how a remote viewing can appear to be one way but be askew enough that if you let your analytical mind run all the information together you will be "dead wrong," no pun intended. It is best to go back and ask Spirit AGAIN to "take you there in your mind's eye." View it until you KNOW IT deep in your soul that you are right about what you are perceiving.
So thankful that the nightmare has ended for the residents of upstate NY!

~In the Light~ Karen