Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Toxic People - Boundaries Needed

We all have them, people that we run from when we see their names light up on our phones. These are the folks where NOTHING ever goes right in their world!  Whether they are our friends, relatives or co-workers everything in us says "run" "hide" "leave me alone" the minute they contact us. How to cope? Boundaries can be your friend, and you don't have to be rude to be firm. If you do pick up the phone, calmly explain that you are very busy at the moment and although you would love to chat you really don't have the time. If that doesn't work, send them an email that says, "got your message," was thinking of you, but couldn't talk due to family and work obligations. Sometimes it is o.k. to just be "unavailable." We are all so connected what with our iphones, androids, etc....Do you really need to know that your friend is at the bank this VERY INSTANT? Take a deep breath, relax, and as they say: "Keep calm & Carry On." Use a little psychic self defense, and take a bath in Epsom Salts to get the negative stuff off of you! Smudge with white sage! Light a white candle! Get out in the sunlight! Deep Breaths!

“The most important skill in staying calm is not to lose sleep over small issues. The second most important skill is to be able to view all issues as small issues.”

1 comment:

  1. I have purged my life of these people, Karen. It wasn't until I let go of them and 'their stuff' that I saw clearly just how much I allowed their negative energy to hold space in my world. Because I am a sensitive person, I recognize that I can't act hastily when making the decision to let go of someone who I think I need to be in relationship with. Clarity and understanding is important to such choices. The one's who were meant to be released, after time, left no "footprint on my heart." Others, left an impression from which I learned something about myself and relationships. Then, there are those with whom I had reconnected, after time passed, and our connection is a vital part of my soul growth steps (as you discuss in your forthcoming book!). Without awareness, without conscious choosing, our souls cannot learn, cannot evolve and will never learn to walk a spiritual path with practical feet.

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