Bibbidy Bobbidy Boo ~ Finding Your Forever Love

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Mark Hollis and I met under the clock at Grand Central Station in NYC on September 5, 2003. Prior to that I joined all the dating sites on the web and was actively looking for my "forever love." I have to say that my Big Angel that year was my husband, Mark. Sent to me by Spirit, and a wonderful match for my life's work and my daughter.

The previous year had been a blur. My custom home in CO had almost burned to the ground in a CO wildfire, (a forest ranger had burned a "love letter" near my home in Conifer CO in 2001), and my house was saved by one slurry plane.

 (You can't make this up folks!)

I was laid off while I had been pregnant with my daughter, Erin, during a Joint Operating agreement between two newspapers. My husband, Kevin, had left me for another woman while I was pregnant after putting him through software engineering school for many years. No explanation from him after 14 years of marriage. Life was definitely not o.k. How many stressors is that? Pregnant? unemployed suddenly? Needing to move cross country? Divorced? New parent? Wow!

Here I was single again after all these years....Yippee. (Not)

It was time to make lemonade out of nothing! I was even out of lemons. LOL
So I did. I squared my jaw and said: "that's it, I'm tired of giving and not getting. Tired of being alone. SO, I employed a little "love magic" by asking for exactly what I wanted in a man. Tall (o.k. so 6'5" is a little overdoing it), smart, (Mark's IQ is off the charts), Spiritual, (Mark was an "Emissary of Divine Light" ) www.http://emissaries.org  and compassionate, (my husband is one of the nicest people you will meet).

The "magic" was my determination to not settle for no one, or the wrong person, or to "give up!"
"ASK and you shall receive, SEEK and you will Find, KNOCK and it will be opened unto you" Matthew 7:7

If you want to go into medicine, you put the effort into medical school, right? If you want to be a teacher, you get your Master's degree, right? SO, if you truly don't want to be single why are you sitting on your couch waiting for the right person to come along? What are the chances of that happening, right? If you fail once, try again.

PUT IN THE EFFORT! If you truly want something, go out and get it.

It seems that we believe this principal was long as it has nothing to do with LOVE and SELF-Worth!
You are worth it, you deserve to be loved, you can do this. I know you can. I did it.

"Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you, if your young at heart." lyrics ~ Jimmy Durante

Keep the Faith ~In the Light~ Karen

The Vessel that Cradles The Grief of Humanity

Clients often ask me how I strengthened my "gift" and for advice?

 Most recently, I sat for about a half hour and really thought through my answer in a very mindful way. There is no easy answer to that question because everyone learns differently. I first sought out a reputable person who I thought knew what they were talking about and asked them. Luckily for me that was a kind, and wonderful mentor and friend named Virginia Randolph. Learning to be more intuitive took years of study from everyone that I could find who would teach me about what they knew and how they did what they did. I took what I thought was the best advice and what rang true to me and implemented it into my own way of reading. I also read every book I could get my hands on. I was led by Spirit to the right places and people and you will be too.

Anyone who knows me, knows that I bristle when people call intuition a "gift." I agree it is in some way special and it is a privilege given by God/Source/Spirit, but I would not call it a "gift." It comes with a heavy responsibility to have humility and be the vessel that cradles the grief of humanity.  You are witnessing here on earth "man's inhumanity to man" and the physical, emotional, and sexual struggles of the human race. If you choose the path of the psychic, you will be called "crazy." Many will scoff at you and suggest that you "think you are something," whatever that means. Some will call you a fraud. Others will cherish what you have to offer, which at its best is a glimpse of the spark of the Divine.

If you listen to your heart and help everyone in your own way, without judgment, you will have done your best. Make sure you are compensated so that people respect your time and efforts, and above all be true to yourself! Beware of the folks I call the "newly spiritual" who tell you that there is only one way to do things, and that is their way. Trust in yourself. Stay positive. Rest when you get weary of what you witness here in the realm known as earth. Know yourself well. Meditate. Pray. These are all my thoughts.

If no one else believes in you, know that I believe in you and Spirit believes in you.
~ In the Light~ Karen

Messages From Loved Ones & Grieving and Timing

It is normal when a beloved family member or friend passes away to go into a state of shock when receiving the news of their death and immediately want to know if they are o.k. The grief can be excruciating if the person was connected to us by love. For many, what we thought we knew about life after death is filtered through the lens of our religious upbringing or the lack of that religious bent in our lives. Some people believe in an afterlife, and others feel that when we die it is over. Whatever you believe becomes your reality when faced with death. But what if love was the "bridge" between the two realities? What if the energy that is our Spirit simply crosses into a new reality that is similar, yet different than what we experience here in the physical? How soon should we seek contact with the dead? Sometimes too soon will leave us in deeper despair because the message we desperately want to hear either does not come because the Spirit world feels that it would plunge us deeper into despair, or the dead also need time to heal and process from their arduous transition.

It is said that there are many stages to the grieving process and as a Psychic/Medium I have often counseled people in a spiritual way that it is not that the dead don't want to connect with the living, it is that the living are in shock about the dead and are not ready to process the messages that are given.
We want to pick up the phone and call our loved one "direct" and have a chat with them as if they are still alive. Unfortunately, communication with the dead is based on symbolism and energy thought transference between the deceased and the Medium. A Medium sits between two worlds energetically. They are the "bridge," if you will, between two realities. One made up of the physical and the other made up of pure energy. Television mediumship has been edited to only show the "amazing" messages that come through from the Medium to the audience. Good mediumship is like mixing the perfect cocktail. It is one part love, one part talent, one part good interpretation, and a damn good energetic connection. The most important part of receiving a good message is to be open to all of the information that comes, and to all the communicators that come.

Many times, the first Spirit to come through is one that is energetically a good match with the Medium and may not be the person that you wanted to hear from like your mom, or your dad.  By this I mean that the Spirit communicator who comes can link and blend well with the Medium energetically. Knowing that you have a dead person wanting to communicate with you is akin to feeling someone walk into your personal space but you just cannot see them. A Spirit can only use the "vocabulary" that the Medium recognizes to communicate. I am clairaudient, which means that I can hear Spirit the same way I can hear a live person. I am clairvoyant, and that means that Spirit can show me photos in my mind and other objects to relay a message. I can also feel Spirit, so they can overlay their physical ailments to let me know how they died or what they died or suffered from. I always say it is through the GRACE of God that I am able to get messages from the dead to the living. Mediumship takes years of dedication to develop and requires a blind faith on the part of the Medium that LOVE conquers the divide that death creates.

If you are grieving, you are not "tracking" and are often in a "fog" due to the shock and emotional process of letting go. You may to hear that your loved one is "happy" now that they have "crossed over," but the truth is that I can only tell you what I am being told ethically. Sometimes that message is "I am o.k. and you too will be o.k." This is especially true with suicides. So, try to keep an OPEN MIND when hearing messages and don't demand to hear only what you want to hear. We tend to have a pre-planned conversation that we would love to hear from the Medium in our heads and we miss the wonderful messages of love and memories in the process.

Love is the bridge that unites and connects us in life, and so it is in death. Honor what messages you get from your loved ones in Spirit and try to let go of the Medium didn't acknowledge your mom's photo in the left front pocket of your jeans! Mediumship is not a "circus act"or a performance that is rated like the Olympics, it is a sacred communication sanctioned by Source/God/The Divine and needs to be treated with that same respect. If you seek Mediumship, do so with love as your only expectation. ~ In the Light~ Karen

Finding Love ~ Soul Mates, Twin Flames, & other Fairy Tales!

In this crazy world where divorce and separation happen all to often to those we love, what does it take to find the love of your life? Would it surprise you to know that the words patience, perseverance, and courage apply when looking for love in 2016?

Social Media has given the illusion that we are globally connected because we can comment Facebook with regard to a photo posted by a friend, Tweet about something interesting, and Tinder whether we are looking for love. When we use the words "Soul Mate," and/or "Twin Flames" we are creating an expectation of perfection in another human being that I would argue does not exist. Our grandparents, and their grandparents, did not have this same high expectation of love in the past. People met, fell in love, settled into a routine, and sometimes got complacent in their marriages/relationships but this did not mean that they did not love their partners.

Today, we expect our prospective partner to know what we need physically, emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually before we say what we need. Is that realistic? To expect that the "spinning around in love kind of love" will last forever? I would suggest that these phrases do more harm than good in today's world. Men and women are switching roles, shouldering more debt, working more hours, spending less time making memories with their children, and then they are expected to be their partner's "Soul Mate" every day of their lives. If not, we divorce too quickly. Cheat too readily. Leave children torn between two parents, and wonder why at mid-life there are so many suicides, and addictions in the world.

The way to love is to show patience and kindness to your partner/spouse. The words please and thank you need to be a part of our lexicon and daily home life. Children know who tuck them in at night and who actually cares whether their lunch is made, or provided. FaceTime is not a substitute for parenting in person. The words you look handsome today or pretty are always nice to hear. Balance in all things.

Finding love may mean taking up a new hobby, getting off your couch, learning a new skill set, going to an event, signing up for a seminar, having coffee with friends who know other friends, or just plain making room in our lives. There is no magical way to meet the love of your life. If you are older, and hopefully wiser, you will need to decide out of your list of "must haves" what is most important in a significant other and maybe even need to compromise if you want that companion in your life. The most important thing that you can do when looking for a life partner is to know what you will and will not tolerate. If someone is inconsistent in their pursuit of you, they don't value moving the relationship forward enough. Let them go. If they are too broken to truly commit or love again. Let them go. If they value money too much and say they will never commit or marry again, believe them and move on. I believe that there are people that are still honest and have integrity in the world, but they are not going to "parachute" in onto your couch on a Saturday night unexpectedly. If you are committed to finding the right person for you, then value yourself enough to commit to putting some effort into the search. You have a job opening entitled "love of your life" ~ people have a resume, "themselves" and either they qualify or they don't. Take back your power, and live your life courageously. Make it happen for you by committing yourself to being open to new friends.

Remember, "dreams do come true and it can happen to you if you are young at heart!"

 Sometimes, Cinderella does really find her Prince or Princess but be prepared to kiss ALOT of Frogs!

~ In the Light ~ Karen