How do you create a happier PAST?

I talk to people every day that live with regrets of one sort or another. Many say things like; " I should have married my high school sweetheart, or I wish I had not married right away." "I should have traveled the world and not had children, or I should have had a child and not been a workaholic. " "I wish I had a better relationship with my mother, or father, and now that I have grown up and can have an adult relationship with them, my parents have passed on." The list of regrets seems endless. If life is a journey, and not a destination then why do we run headlong thru our lives without giving proper consideration to BIG life decisions like marriage, children, travel, & the soul's aspirations?  I think it is our EGO that prevents us from allowing us to explore who we are when we are young. We think that we HAVE to HAVE the big home, and the new car, and we actually put more "stock" into what others think about us than about who we really are inside, and who we would like to become later in life so we have no regrets. I have asked people in my reading room what they would like their legacy to be at the end of their lives. Many have no idea what I am talking about, or why I am asking the question. I am asking them because it is mighty hard to create a happier PAST. Once time has "marched on," there are no "do overs." Time is precious. Savor every moment of happiness. My advice as a psychic is to celebrate, whenever and wherever you can, the little and the big things in life that are happy. Weddings, babies, birthdays, picnics, vacations, children, parents, grandparents, all close friendships. No regrets. No should have done it better, differently, etc... Start living. Stop regretting. Start committing to love, to God/Goddess/Spirit/Universe, to family, to yourself. Live in the moment. This is the day that you have been given. Find one happy thing to rejoice in. Karen

Ghost Hunting - Why it fascinates us!

It will soon be autumn and with that comes the "Day of the Dead" - Samhain - All Hallows Eve. Call it what you wish, we celebrate the harvest and give thanks for life as well as death as the seasons turn. Recently, I joined an official ghost hunting paranormal team named Ghosts of New England Research Society or G.O.N.E.R.S for short. I had been investigating hauntings solo for years at the request of nervous real estate agents, private home owners, and business owners who had unexplained phenomena spooking them. No cameras, no EVP evidence, just me and my intuitive/mediumship/clairaudience ability to guide me. I can't tell you how thrilled I am to finally be with others of like mind that are too looking for hard evidence of what may be "out there - on the other side." Given that we are all human, it is natural for us to want to believe that we all will somehow survive beyond the physical body someday. Recently, Raymond Moody wrote a new book entitled Glimpses of Eternity  and it is fascinating reading. Whether you are spooked by what goes bump in the night, or just like to feel an adrenaline rush when you think you feel something brush past you in the dark, you have to admit it is an interesting topic. Tell me your ghost story? Share it here on my blog? Karen

Evaluating time spent

Recently, I had a client in my office that had experienced the beaches of Normandy, had jumped out of airplanes, been divorced, remarried, and had lost a grown child to death far too young.  There is a saying that we are born "square" but life wears us down into a "round" circle that is perfect in every way. For this client, he confessed that he had never been scared although so many things had happened to him in his life.  He recently got into a bad car accident, and was told that it was not his "time" to go yet. For this individual, his own mortality was a very scary thing and he broke down and sobbed.  It is true that many of us never ponder the time we spend on earth, or how we are actually spending it. If you wake up and slog thru your day because you have to, I invite you to stop and think about what you are accomplishing and what your legacy will be. Is money making you happy? Is the relationship you are in fulfilling? Do you like what you do? If not, maybe it is time to re- evaluate. Not every aspect of your life at once, but each segment a little at a time. Live with purpose. Live up to commitments made. Love deeply, and stop to smell the flowers. Life is short, but it can be sweet.

Practical Magic

Many of you may not know that the first song that I play in my office each day is the theme from "Practical Magic" the movie! I do this to remind myself that magic is real, and your reality is what you make it. I do practical magic each day in my home by lighting one candle for peace, and one for prosperity. I have a mantle that I place a special cloth on with things that remind me that I am not separate and alone from the Divine. Recently, I put a picture in a frame of a small mouse, out in the snow, that finds an ear of Indian corn to feed it.
The caption reads: Matthew 6:26 See the birds of heaven; they do not put seeds in the earth, they do not get in grain, or put it in store-houses; and your Father in heaven gives them food. Are you not of much more value than they?
It is a good reminder that we may not always get what we want, but we will get what we need. Create Practical magic in your life. Find outward ways to express your inner strength and purpose. I personally have found Scott Cunnigham's book the "Magical Household" to be of help! Namaste - Karen

Trust of the Highest Order - Loving Another Human Being

Many of us have been lulled into complacency by a relationship that has lasted many years, and then are "blown away" by the very person we trusted leaving us without explanation. It is mind blowing to say the least and devastating. The inability of individuals to articulate that they are unhappy within their relationship leads to infidelity, and destruction. Relationships that end without "closure" leave both parties without perspective and an ability to move forward. Many of us wake up to find ourselves in an unhappy state of being, and because we cannot attribute that unhappiness to something inside of ourselves, we then blame our partner/spouse for that unhappiness. We want change, even if it is destructive, and we assume that change is always the answer. If you find yourself feeling unhappy with your life, consider that this feeling may be temporary, slow down and talk through with yourself and your partner about your unhappiness. Money comes and money go, children grow and leave home, aging happens, and health declines despite our best efforts at fitness. Happiness is a choice, and commitment to work on a relationship needs to be a daily effort. Relationships are like plants, they need to be fed, and have sunlight (fun) in order to grow. Sometimes, holding the hand of the person you care about will need to be enough. Romance comes in the form of a knowing look, and a gentle touch. We are in a society that has such high expectations for everyone and everything. Perfect doesn't exist and certainly not with people in relationships. For today, choose "good enough."  Namaste, Karen

When life gives us lemons.....

How many of us would like to wake up daily to a stress free life?  A world where our jobs were always fulfilling, our colleagues were cooperative, our ex-spouses, ex-lovers, ex-whatevers, were out of our lives, and peace reigned eternal from dawn to dusk.  Plenty of money to pay bills, children that were perfect, houses that were organized, etc...   If there is a heaven, that would be it.  Is that realistic? Probably not.  Sometimes, doing your best needs to be good enough.  Let it be. Live in the present. Not in the past where the pain lies, and we can change nothing. Hope for the future, and do your part to make it the best it can be.
 My grandmother used to hum a tune entitled "Que Sera, Sera" and here are a portion of the lyrics:

When I was just a little girl
I asked my mother, what will I be
Will I be pretty, will I be rich
Here's what she said to me.

Que Sera, Sera,
Whatever will be, will be
The future's not ours, to see
Que Sera, Sera
What will be, will be.

I find it ironic that now that I am a full time psychic my daughter, Erin, hums this tune and plays it on her grandmother's piano.....perhaps, good advice from my grandmother from beyond the grave!  Just for today....hum to yourself..."Que Sera, Sera.."  Karen

You can lead the horse to water.....

Remember the saying, "you can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink?"  It is like that when discussing relationships with people when it comes to psychic work.  People believe what they want to believe about love interests, and they only hear what they want to hear.  When our heart is involved, our mind bends and skews information to make it what we want it to be.  A person we love forgets our birthday, and we make excuses saying that he/she is too busy, or that we shouldn't be so materialistic, instead of seeing the slight for what it was......an oversight of tremendous proportions emotionally.  A lover starts texting a co-worker, and we find the text and believe that it is "all in great fun" and doesn't signal cheating because it isn't physical in nature.  Emotional cheating is as prevalent as physical cheating.  Trust your head and not your heart.  Excuses for bad behavior run rampant.  Do not accept bad behavior from someone who supposedly professes their love for you.  Have a talk with them, ask them to change their behavior, and if they do not.  End it.  Stop the excuses.  I say this with compassion and conviction. Namaste.  Karen